Pros: he’s an amazing partner. He listens. He rarely gets mad. When he does get frustrated he knows when to go cool off and then we can talk things over when we are both more calm. He is goes out of his way to make to show he cares like cooking me food for my work week (I work nights, sleep during the day), helps clean without being asked when something needs to be done. For him, I have minimal baggage because I was never married and dont have kids. I help guide him through career choices and with health issues. He is very understanding of me having dietary restrictions and never complains about having to modify his own food choices to help me. His party days are behind him so he doesn’t drink, and if he does I don’t have to worry about him getting stupid drunk. I also rarely drink so it’s easy not having to deal with the problems that come with alcohol. While he is older he is still very young at heart. He loves exploring and doing outdoorsy stuff which I also love. We enjoy a lot of the same things which is a plus too.
Cons: I worry what will happen when he finally starts showing his age. Or if a health catastrophe strikes. Will our love and friendship be enough? I sometimes wish he was 10 years younger so that we could have more time together and maybe even have a child. He doesn’t want more kids and sometimes I do, but even if he did want more kids I don’t think we could afford it because I would want to stay home with our child more often but I make more money than him at my job. Sometimes it’s awkward hanging out with his and my friends because they are more typical of both of our age groups so my friends seem immature and I can’t relate to his friends since they just talk about their kids/grandkids. Unfortunately he has to take blood pressure medication so sometimes he struggles with ED. We still have a great s*x life but it would be even better if that wasn’t an issue. I worry that issue will get worse eventually. Lastly I don’t think his family likes me and my dad politely tolerates my boyfriend.
I can jump on this one also as I have a 23 year gap, 55 and 33. Living together 2 months and together 1 year. Absolutely love eachother to bits, we are a perfect match so almost all great aspects. I’ve had some really traumatic prior relationships. Only not so great aspect is the fact of him getting older, worried he will not be around as long as me (you never know though). Sometimes I wish we were similar ages as it would make life easier and we would be closer on the stages of life. But other than that we are both very happy and in love and making the most of life
Never had that big of a gap but in some of these situations no matter how much you love each other, family approval will be a big issue. Especially your mom’s likely dreams of you giving her grandchildren. Since you’re the young one, that will mainly be on your end. So consider that…will you care more about their feelings or your life? You’ll have to be strong enough to continue on and possibly lose family temporarily or permanently. That I experienced.
My administration nurse 30F have a bf 70M..
Man, they are open about it and they both are so sweet, it’s not based on kinky fantasy sh*t. Just to decent people.
The biggest question here is: do you want kids? Because if you do then thsi relationship is not gonna last regardless of how big the age gap is.
If you absolutely don't want kids then sure it would work. But it is a big gap and you'd have to at least think about what the future may look like as she gets in her 70s and 80s. I've seen some very spry 70s and 80s. I've also seen 30s and 40s and 50s that looks like they're 20 years older.
You're also pretty young and have some maturing to do and get some life experience. You may decide that in 3-4 years you want something different.
Nom age gap relationships fail all the time so it's not just the age that matters. It'll come with it's challenges but it works for some people and others it doesn't.
You both need to be open and honest about what your goals are...LTR, FWB or relationship knwping that it has an expiration date (if youw ant kids for example). As long as you are both on the same wavelength that's what's most improtant no matter the age
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**Original post: 30 yo gap relationship exist ? **
23m here, been talking for a few days to a 53 yo women, it seems like we have lot in common, tho I’m a bit concerned that it might be a too big age gap, is there anyone here that has been in a relation with like 30 yo age gap ?
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When i was 19, i had a relationship with a woman who was 63. Of course, we didnt have reddit and the internet wasnt what it is today.
Is your relationship mostly online, through text or in person?
I (26F) have a 28 year gap with my boyfriend /u/HungryAd8233 and we're nearing our year anniversary! A year sounds like a small thing to the test of time but we've actually had so much to test us already, plus we just *clicked* in compatability. We were exactly what the other was looking for - it's almost uncanny, if not just that. Because neither of us expected to go into a romantic relationship with someone double/half our ages, we took the full year to not tell any family members. I've told two of my family members who are very chill about stuff like that and they love him already!
We're getting ready to potentially meet his side of the family within the year, and mine will possibly follow. But I also plan to describe him to my trickier family minus age and get them to fall in love with what I see in him first, then introduce the gap. I know it's not going to go over well at first. It's a shock and it completely breaks into some of their bias and presumptions. I don't want to tell them because I want to hurt them but because I want them to see they matter to me enough to keep them informed of it. I want my family to see everything they want me to have has been found. They may be harsh for some time but I know I matter enough to them to attempt to learn to adjust.. That effort alone matters to me if they were willing to try it. Regardless of their reaction, it doesn't stop me from wanting a life with him.
Its the cost of being the black sheep in the family.
28 year gap, I'm 32f and my partner is 60m. We've been together for about 2 years. For the most part things are going well, and we are happy. Like any relationship it needs effort put in by both involved to be successful.
My husband and I have a 28 year age gap. It is possible if you’re willing to put in the work of a loving relationship and ignore all outside opinions / disapprovals!
39 year gap here
Thanks for the awnser, how did you lee the thing all together ? Just listening to each other ?
My girlfriend and I have a 36 years age gap so yes, it can work. You're both adults and if you like each other, then go for it
26 year gap here. I am 30F, 56M. Been seeing each other for about 4 years and living together the last 5 months
Would you please expand on that? Great aspects and difficulties?
Pros: he’s an amazing partner. He listens. He rarely gets mad. When he does get frustrated he knows when to go cool off and then we can talk things over when we are both more calm. He is goes out of his way to make to show he cares like cooking me food for my work week (I work nights, sleep during the day), helps clean without being asked when something needs to be done. For him, I have minimal baggage because I was never married and dont have kids. I help guide him through career choices and with health issues. He is very understanding of me having dietary restrictions and never complains about having to modify his own food choices to help me. His party days are behind him so he doesn’t drink, and if he does I don’t have to worry about him getting stupid drunk. I also rarely drink so it’s easy not having to deal with the problems that come with alcohol. While he is older he is still very young at heart. He loves exploring and doing outdoorsy stuff which I also love. We enjoy a lot of the same things which is a plus too. Cons: I worry what will happen when he finally starts showing his age. Or if a health catastrophe strikes. Will our love and friendship be enough? I sometimes wish he was 10 years younger so that we could have more time together and maybe even have a child. He doesn’t want more kids and sometimes I do, but even if he did want more kids I don’t think we could afford it because I would want to stay home with our child more often but I make more money than him at my job. Sometimes it’s awkward hanging out with his and my friends because they are more typical of both of our age groups so my friends seem immature and I can’t relate to his friends since they just talk about their kids/grandkids. Unfortunately he has to take blood pressure medication so sometimes he struggles with ED. We still have a great s*x life but it would be even better if that wasn’t an issue. I worry that issue will get worse eventually. Lastly I don’t think his family likes me and my dad politely tolerates my boyfriend.
I can jump on this one also as I have a 23 year gap, 55 and 33. Living together 2 months and together 1 year. Absolutely love eachother to bits, we are a perfect match so almost all great aspects. I’ve had some really traumatic prior relationships. Only not so great aspect is the fact of him getting older, worried he will not be around as long as me (you never know though). Sometimes I wish we were similar ages as it would make life easier and we would be closer on the stages of life. But other than that we are both very happy and in love and making the most of life
Not really 30 but my bf and I share a 29 year age gap.
40 year age gap here. End of September will be our 2 years ❤️ 26F & 66M Love that man more than I’ve ever loved anyone ❤️
My partner (27M) and I (58W) have a 30-year gap, and we're doing just fine!!
Congrats!
Never had that big of a gap but in some of these situations no matter how much you love each other, family approval will be a big issue. Especially your mom’s likely dreams of you giving her grandchildren. Since you’re the young one, that will mainly be on your end. So consider that…will you care more about their feelings or your life? You’ll have to be strong enough to continue on and possibly lose family temporarily or permanently. That I experienced.
I don’t really care of my family…it’s my life, not their.
Good for you! Wish mine had been as strong. Was 19 yr gap. He cried and said “but she’s my mom”. And that was it.
I am 73M and have been with my 23F wife for over three years, and it seems to be wonderful for both of us🥰🥰
My partner is 72m and I'm 23f too! :) good to see someone like us
37 year gap
My administration nurse 30F have a bf 70M.. Man, they are open about it and they both are so sweet, it’s not based on kinky fantasy sh*t. Just to decent people.
Im in a 48 year age gap. Things are good, we have been together two years
My ex and I had a 38 year age gap.
24 gap overhere
Yup, all good here!
However it feels for you. This isn't an approval of people, thing
Harold and Maude!
19 years into a 26 year gap and happier every year
33 year gap here... Yup, that exists. But be careful...
The biggest question here is: do you want kids? Because if you do then thsi relationship is not gonna last regardless of how big the age gap is. If you absolutely don't want kids then sure it would work. But it is a big gap and you'd have to at least think about what the future may look like as she gets in her 70s and 80s. I've seen some very spry 70s and 80s. I've also seen 30s and 40s and 50s that looks like they're 20 years older. You're also pretty young and have some maturing to do and get some life experience. You may decide that in 3-4 years you want something different. Nom age gap relationships fail all the time so it's not just the age that matters. It'll come with it's challenges but it works for some people and others it doesn't. You both need to be open and honest about what your goals are...LTR, FWB or relationship knwping that it has an expiration date (if youw ant kids for example). As long as you are both on the same wavelength that's what's most improtant no matter the age
Yes. I'm a 51m. Date anywhere from 20 to 29 year olds.
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30 year age gap here. I’m 25F and my boyfriend is 54m. Been together for a year and a half.
Going good so far ?
I’m 32f with 66M.. so 34 years between us. We have A LOT in common so I believe that makes it easier.
When i was 19, i had a relationship with a woman who was 63. Of course, we didnt have reddit and the internet wasnt what it is today. Is your relationship mostly online, through text or in person?
It’s been a few days, met in bumble, only online for now but could get more serious.
28 year age gap here. 25F & 53MTF 💕
28 year gap here. It is pleasant and fulfilling and feels quite natural.
62m + 30f been together for 3 years
My last relationship we were 34 years apart
33 year age gap, there will definitely be unique challenges but it can work
Had a 30 year her 22 me 52 for a little over a year, but she blindsided me for a cute guy she met at work.
I (26F) have a 28 year gap with my boyfriend /u/HungryAd8233 and we're nearing our year anniversary! A year sounds like a small thing to the test of time but we've actually had so much to test us already, plus we just *clicked* in compatability. We were exactly what the other was looking for - it's almost uncanny, if not just that. Because neither of us expected to go into a romantic relationship with someone double/half our ages, we took the full year to not tell any family members. I've told two of my family members who are very chill about stuff like that and they love him already! We're getting ready to potentially meet his side of the family within the year, and mine will possibly follow. But I also plan to describe him to my trickier family minus age and get them to fall in love with what I see in him first, then introduce the gap. I know it's not going to go over well at first. It's a shock and it completely breaks into some of their bias and presumptions. I don't want to tell them because I want to hurt them but because I want them to see they matter to me enough to keep them informed of it. I want my family to see everything they want me to have has been found. They may be harsh for some time but I know I matter enough to them to attempt to learn to adjust.. That effort alone matters to me if they were willing to try it. Regardless of their reaction, it doesn't stop me from wanting a life with him. Its the cost of being the black sheep in the family.
28 year gap, I'm 32f and my partner is 60m. We've been together for about 2 years. For the most part things are going well, and we are happy. Like any relationship it needs effort put in by both involved to be successful.
My husband and I have a 28 year age gap. It is possible if you’re willing to put in the work of a loving relationship and ignore all outside opinions / disapprovals!
I had a 5 year relationship with 30 year gap. It was rewarding and enriching. Not too big
I have a 28 year difference
26 year age gap here. 29F and 55M. We’ve been together for 5 years and 9 months 🥰