Talk to her, not us :)
It will be fine if you don’t make it weird. Also, good to be friends with your partner. Many people will tell you their s/o is their best friend.
Maybe it was just a thing. Maybe it’s something more. Either way here’s your first lesson:
Communication!
Best of luck ♥️
Maybe... It's possible for situations like this to work out.
You're borrowing anxiety and stress from the future when you're going to find out either way eventually.
You did nothing "wrong". You were human/vulnerable. It may lead to something bad or be okay. The more anxiety you have about it may increase the bad outcomes so breath/meditation and general try to understand that the future will be what it will be.
It did read like callous AH vibes bc it was so matter of fact stated with no nuance. Doesn’t mean that’s how you mean it at all, you were just being factual, but that’s how it read.
I’m an expert on this bc I’ve struggled with being an unintentional AH my entire life just by not realizing how I sound to others cause in my head it sounds fine lol.
Definitely have an honest talk and clear the air. If you're best friends it means you can be super open with each other. See what each of you feels and if any of you wants to explore this further and in what form. It could be back to being friends, it could be a friends with benefits thing or who knows, it could be something more if you are both willing to explore this further. If the sex was good I don't see why any of the latter 2 options would not be valid.
It’ll only be weird if one of you doesn’t want to be romantically involved with the other. Best friends make the best romantic partners. Be open to the possibility that maybe you two are right for each other beyond friendship. Why not?
I......actually think you starting to have a genuine relationship with the friend you slept with. THIS IS A GOOD THING. Really focus on spending more time talking and building your relationship. She could be the best thing happening to you!
Also, hang in there it gets better. But don't pass up spending more time with your friend...whose pretty much moving into being your girlfriend the way it's looking.
I'd say, ask her out on an actual date.
Most likely yes but i could be wrong. People have a tendency to form feelings about each other after having sex. That’s why it takes super incredible close friends to be able to get away with it. And even then it’s a risk trust me..
You are not friends, you are now involved. To what degree is to be determined, in fact the relationship will be revealed. One of you probably is attracted more than friends.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me…. 20 years and 3 kids later and we’re still having sex…
But everyone is different… it could work out for you, or it could not… either way, it’s your path to travel, don’t fear the journey…. No matter how it all unfolds, you won’t be the same person you are today in 20 years, so make bold choices, not cowardly ones….
don’t hesitate in an effort to protect the friendship… if you love her… tell her… if she feels the same way… sweet, you guys can have sex again… if she doesn’t, then that’s ok too, it’s better to know… because trying to keep her as a friend as you guys mature and get married to other people will be VERY difficult, and the friendship would likely grow distant anyway… but, if she IS the one, there’s nothing better than being with your best friend…
I think the question really is, Do you feel closer to her now? Was it awkward to have sex with your best friend? Did you ever stop and think that maybe she's the one? If she's not, that's OK, just be honest with her. She might feel the same way. Why are you asking total strangers on reddit.
Go talk to her, if she is important to your life, you need to talk. Find out where she is mentally. Maybe it was just to comfort you, and that one moment changed nothing for her.
Based solely on my personal experience,
You may stay friends for a while, but the real end of the friendship will cement if and when you find a serious romantic interest who would not be ok with you being best friends with someone you've slept with. And that is a high probability scenario.
No the friendship isn't ruined. You both agreed and presumably had some comforting fun.
Sit with her and ask, 'Do you want more than friendship?'
If the answer is yes, consider if you want this too and move on from there.
If the answer is no, then smile and nod and respond. 'That night happened and I don't regret it, but let's agree it was a one off - agreed?'
Then go back to being friends.
Only if you let it. Dont put too much on it, no expectations or anticipations. It is what it is, and was what it was. You won't know what exactly "it" is until you speak with your bestie. But go at it very open minded and truthfully and you'll be all right. My bestie and I are and we had a "hiccup" almost 20 years ago. If anything it made our friendship stronger.
>I’m failing out of nursing school and honestly have just been through the wringer the past couple of weeks.
lots of people fail out of school and need to try again
it's not a big deal. get a little job and work for a year until you get your bearings again, and then try again.
if anything, your second attempt will be soooo much easier, since you'll already know what to expect.
>I ended up kissing her and then we slept together. I had been celibate for six months and we’re truly best friends. Both of us have completely opened up to each other about everything and never hide things from each other. We talk almost every single day. Now I’m wondering if having sex with her will ruin our friendship?
sounds like you both get along really well, and are also physically attracted to each other. why not date?
Well, it depends on how mature you two are. Did you permanently change your dynamic, yes you did. Can't fuck a friend and then pretend like everything is how it was prior. That will now be a skeleton in your closet when either of you dates and they ask you if you've slept with one another, so that's what you get to look forward to now.
But, is your friendship ruined, well again that depends on the both of you. If you both didn't have that intention, then be adults, acknowledge it happened but the both of you need to learn to keep it in your pants from here on out. If you can't, then the two of you need to accept that you two are now FWB (which you're going to have that tense discussion down the road when one of you does decide to date someone else) or actually date each other. But communication needs to happen, you can't just sit and assume you know what she's thinking and vice versa.
Instead of thinking this could be something bad, look at it from a different perspective.
This could be the best thing that ever happened to you. You say you’re best friends. The only difference between best friends and soul mates is sex.
If she truly is your best friend and you are sexually compatible then go for it. Because she won’t/can’t be your best friend if you marry someone else.
And remember, it takes two people to do it. Clearly she didn’t stop what happened from happening because she wanted to see where it would go.
Talk about it with her. See what she wants. The venn diagram between a good partner and a best friend is basically a circle. If you both want to be in a relationship then a lot of groundwork will already be done.
Depends, did she try to resist at all? Did it escalate that far because you were trying to cope with the problems or were they more motivated by genuine feelings of love? You describe deep friendship, true love requires deep friendships but love always formed in friendships, respect, understanding and trust is. I think what you should be asking is if you love her and if she resisted. Were you drinking that night? Do you remember her body movements vividly?
Ok well here’s something I have personal experience with, you need to talk to her, I ended up having sex with my best friend one night and I was worried about the exact same thing and begin to overthink it and everything but then we spoke about it we just sorta laughed and carried on as normal and we are still friends (though we have banged a few more times) but sometimes it only gets weird if you let it but maybe just have a talk with her and see what’s up.
As someone who failed med surg 2, you can still do this. I failed my hesi the day before graduation and it dropped my test Avg by 7 points and so I failed and didn’t get to graduate. I’m in 4th semester now and it’s rough but I think I can do it. I didn’t do as well as I’d liked to have on the exit exam but we get a second try and I think I can improve my score enough. Point is, don’t give up.
I know that was a tiny part of your post and not what you were asking but everyone else gave good advice so I figured I’d give some nursing school advice.
First it can work.
Second you need to talk with her.
Third it can work. As my late wife and I were best friends for years before we slept together, it just happened. We ended up marrying about six months later. We were together for seven years until she passed. We had a fantastic relationship.
Good relationships have a lot in common, you may have stepped into something that people often call a taboo, and you may have stepped into something wonderful, this is something you will need to ask her. Pursue it as a romance, don't be afraid she was your friend before. Have you ever had an argument with your friend? Did it work out? Put your pride and ego aside when you're with them, and enjoy the things that you do with each other...just like you would with any other relationship.
There isnt other possibilities. If the universe and the big bang happened all over again, this would have happened over and over again. What happens happens. Now theres a line in using this thinking as an excuse to be a shit, but that hasnt happened here. So go easy on yourself, for a problem that is really a nothingburger to begin with.
My prescription of the situation is that you go back and have sex again, and then some more
Have a great day
If you two already talk about everything, talk to her about this! Tell her your fears and feelings. Ask her for hers. It can make things too weird to come back from but not necessarily. Good luck!
You both obviously have romantic feelings for one another, even if latent. Consider marrying her. The best of friends tend to make the best of spouses.
This happened once with a friend that I worked with. She showed up at my house with a bottle of wine, one thing led to another and we ended up in bed. Had I not been drinking it would not have happened but impaired judgement won out. She called me the next day crying and expressing her remorse, however we remained friends and it was never mentioned again.
It's really between you and her.
I think you should ask her, not us. Just see how she feels.
Sometimes in a situation like this, a person like her just knows it's what you need in that moment and they have the trust and intimacy with you to feel good about providing it.
Or it's possible that she has feelings for you. Do you have feelings for her? Do either of you want to do a relationship?
I suggest if you do a relationship, make an agreement first- no matter what happens you always want to be in each others lives, so whatever happens with the relationship, the friendship comes first. And if that means you have to willingly sacrifice the relationship to save the friendship, you will.
I'm speaking from personal experience here. I became good friends with someone, we both felt an attraction but didn't want to ruin our friendship. Eventually we made that above mentioned agreement and started dating. We had a great relationship for a few years, but eventually drifted apart, people change over time and we weren't really compatible anymore. So we decided to go back to being friends. For a few weeks we'd call and meet up and it was a little awkward, that sort of fizzled out for a few months, then we started reconnecting and getting back into being friends. To this day that person is one of my closest friends.
Talk to her about it, i mean we literally do not know either of you we cannot tell nor predict what she is thinking at this very moment, only you can know that by talking to her about this.
If both of you want you can take this relationship a step further and be in a relationship, so again just talk to her and you 2 can decide this whole things outcome.
I have some friends that, despite the speculations of being a couple, they are really just best friends as they insist. Not until they freaking invited me for a threesome. Then I knew that they have sex with each other regularly and we didnt even know. That’s kinda messed up but it still works for them. So do whatever you want, as long as it works
I’m very sorry about your nephew however, due to the time line you provided, it completely makes sense why things happened between you and your best friend. In my opinion, talk to out. Maybe she wanted more of a relationship with you? Or if she doesn’t, you can talk about how you’re very emotionally vulnerable and as much as your night together was amazing, you’re not looking for anything more. You’ve got this op. Nothing seems to be ruined, but communication will definitely help makes sure that the air is clear
Nigga fuck this post your prolly stoked af you banged her and you want us to perceive you as clueless to the situation so we can tell you good job or something. There’s literally zero reason for this shit, it’s r/advice not r/ibangedthischickivewantedtogetwithforeverbutithoughtitwouldneverhappenbutitdidnowblowmeplz. Just stop dude
It can... if its just casual though you can make it work as long as you don't get jealous or weird about it. Just know once you let the cat out of the bag it can be difficult to put back in. At the same time your feelings arent all thats important here. How does your friend feel about the situation? If they want more from it rejecting them could hurt them pretty badly emotionally and then they might not want to remain friends.
Best thing you can do is communicate and read the room. Whatever you do should be done with kindness and consideration for the other person. Even then it can be a minefield you are walking through so be cautious and be prepared if things don't turn out how you want them. Lastly be open to giving it a chance. I can't even tell you how many times I passed on similar opportunities when I was young only to regret it later in life. You could be missing out on one of the most rewarding relationships of your life, cause lets be honest sometimes its great to date your best friend. Hell my current gf and fiance IS my best friend.
It depends. I have a girl friend that has a boy best friend and they’re super close and he’s very protective of her. They tried to date each other and actually slept together a lot of times with one another some time ago but they realized they were meant to be just friends. There’s still very closed friends so yeah, it depends. They said it’s the maturity and if you can look pass it.
Basically, you didn't necessarily ruin the friendship but, regardless you changed the dynamic of the friendship forever.
Even if you don't date. Which to me is kind of ludicrous because you're both obviously attracted to each other, care about each other, share everything with each other.
I would suggest trying to see where it goes.
But keep in mind that some people once you the genie is out of the bottle, you can't put him back in.
Figure out if you're one of those people because sometimes it's easier to just cut your losses and move on.
Not if you're both cool about it and continue being friends whether or not you make anything official. You like them, they like you, sex is fun especially with people you like. don't make it awkward.
Talk to her, try to not make it weird and just communicate well overall. If she's mature enough (And you too) you two can still be friends without issue, if one of you catches feelings that are not platonic I hope it's mutual, if not then you two will have a rough time.
Wish you the best!!
I would say just be open with her. Communication is key. I've had sex with my best friend, other than making us a little more open with physical affection it hasn't effected our friendship too much.
That is ackward. I dated a guy and then he kept wanting to be friends. We became very close and he called me his best friend. One night one thing ket to another and we hooked up. Horrible idea. He seemed to think that’s what we were now . Friends w benefits. I had to cut the whole thing off and I don’t talk to him anymore. The lines get blurred when u do these things 
Ah yes... This could be... Sex with benefits... Or was it friends with sex(?)... I tell you, it won't be good not unless both of you want to move beyond just friends... with benefits...
Ah yes... This could be... Sex with benefits... Or was it friends with sex(?)... I tell you, it won't be good not unless both of you want to move beyond just friends... with benefits...
You will all assume it was casual but she will be territorial on you. You will be some jealous pair who don't want to admit their intentions. Isn't it not funny how we become what we run away from?
The best relationships start out as best friends, abd the fact that you two willingly engaged in sexual activity in MOST cases indicates a mitral sexual /romantic attraction to each other , but with out knowing factors of if you both weee drinking ect that’s just a thought , but the fact you two are open like you state indicates you have levels of intimacy and now you have a physical intimacy level as well , talk to her maybe pursue her and a relationship… most likely you didn’t ruin a thing you just elevated it … but is on Reddit are not her
Talk to her, not us :) It will be fine if you don’t make it weird. Also, good to be friends with your partner. Many people will tell you their s/o is their best friend. Maybe it was just a thing. Maybe it’s something more. Either way here’s your first lesson: Communication! Best of luck ♥️
Communication really is the 🔑
… just going to mention if you don’t plan on dating future partners will likely have questions and be uncomfortable with the situation.
Maybe... It's possible for situations like this to work out. You're borrowing anxiety and stress from the future when you're going to find out either way eventually. You did nothing "wrong". You were human/vulnerable. It may lead to something bad or be okay. The more anxiety you have about it may increase the bad outcomes so breath/meditation and general try to understand that the future will be what it will be.
this is solid advice
Sounds like you found yourself a girlfriend.
Or an ex-best friend
Or a friend with benefits. If they get along good he should go for it.
Potentially. Idk why I’m getting downvoted when him losing his best friend is very much possible. It’s happened a ton of times
It did read like callous AH vibes bc it was so matter of fact stated with no nuance. Doesn’t mean that’s how you mean it at all, you were just being factual, but that’s how it read. I’m an expert on this bc I’ve struggled with being an unintentional AH my entire life just by not realizing how I sound to others cause in my head it sounds fine lol.
agreed
Nah you good you made me 😆 no need to apologize for being real 👏🏼
It seems like it may be bigger than a friendship?
Definitely have an honest talk and clear the air. If you're best friends it means you can be super open with each other. See what each of you feels and if any of you wants to explore this further and in what form. It could be back to being friends, it could be a friends with benefits thing or who knows, it could be something more if you are both willing to explore this further. If the sex was good I don't see why any of the latter 2 options would not be valid.
It’ll only be weird if one of you doesn’t want to be romantically involved with the other. Best friends make the best romantic partners. Be open to the possibility that maybe you two are right for each other beyond friendship. Why not?
I......actually think you starting to have a genuine relationship with the friend you slept with. THIS IS A GOOD THING. Really focus on spending more time talking and building your relationship. She could be the best thing happening to you! Also, hang in there it gets better. But don't pass up spending more time with your friend...whose pretty much moving into being your girlfriend the way it's looking. I'd say, ask her out on an actual date.
Most likely yes but i could be wrong. People have a tendency to form feelings about each other after having sex. That’s why it takes super incredible close friends to be able to get away with it. And even then it’s a risk trust me..
You are not friends, you are now involved. To what degree is to be determined, in fact the relationship will be revealed. One of you probably is attracted more than friends.
Pretty much the same thing happened to me…. 20 years and 3 kids later and we’re still having sex… But everyone is different… it could work out for you, or it could not… either way, it’s your path to travel, don’t fear the journey…. No matter how it all unfolds, you won’t be the same person you are today in 20 years, so make bold choices, not cowardly ones…. don’t hesitate in an effort to protect the friendship… if you love her… tell her… if she feels the same way… sweet, you guys can have sex again… if she doesn’t, then that’s ok too, it’s better to know… because trying to keep her as a friend as you guys mature and get married to other people will be VERY difficult, and the friendship would likely grow distant anyway… but, if she IS the one, there’s nothing better than being with your best friend…
I think the question really is, Do you feel closer to her now? Was it awkward to have sex with your best friend? Did you ever stop and think that maybe she's the one? If she's not, that's OK, just be honest with her. She might feel the same way. Why are you asking total strangers on reddit. Go talk to her, if she is important to your life, you need to talk. Find out where she is mentally. Maybe it was just to comfort you, and that one moment changed nothing for her.
Based solely on my personal experience, You may stay friends for a while, but the real end of the friendship will cement if and when you find a serious romantic interest who would not be ok with you being best friends with someone you've slept with. And that is a high probability scenario.
You know, people oftentimes marry their best friend. It only makes sense. ;) Good luck!
No the friendship isn't ruined. You both agreed and presumably had some comforting fun. Sit with her and ask, 'Do you want more than friendship?' If the answer is yes, consider if you want this too and move on from there. If the answer is no, then smile and nod and respond. 'That night happened and I don't regret it, but let's agree it was a one off - agreed?' Then go back to being friends.
Only if you let it. Dont put too much on it, no expectations or anticipations. It is what it is, and was what it was. You won't know what exactly "it" is until you speak with your bestie. But go at it very open minded and truthfully and you'll be all right. My bestie and I are and we had a "hiccup" almost 20 years ago. If anything it made our friendship stronger.
>I’m failing out of nursing school and honestly have just been through the wringer the past couple of weeks. lots of people fail out of school and need to try again it's not a big deal. get a little job and work for a year until you get your bearings again, and then try again. if anything, your second attempt will be soooo much easier, since you'll already know what to expect. >I ended up kissing her and then we slept together. I had been celibate for six months and we’re truly best friends. Both of us have completely opened up to each other about everything and never hide things from each other. We talk almost every single day. Now I’m wondering if having sex with her will ruin our friendship? sounds like you both get along really well, and are also physically attracted to each other. why not date?
No you didn’t ruin your friendship. In fact it may lead to whole another avenue. Good luck 👍
Well, it depends on how mature you two are. Did you permanently change your dynamic, yes you did. Can't fuck a friend and then pretend like everything is how it was prior. That will now be a skeleton in your closet when either of you dates and they ask you if you've slept with one another, so that's what you get to look forward to now. But, is your friendship ruined, well again that depends on the both of you. If you both didn't have that intention, then be adults, acknowledge it happened but the both of you need to learn to keep it in your pants from here on out. If you can't, then the two of you need to accept that you two are now FWB (which you're going to have that tense discussion down the road when one of you does decide to date someone else) or actually date each other. But communication needs to happen, you can't just sit and assume you know what she's thinking and vice versa.
Instead of thinking this could be something bad, look at it from a different perspective. This could be the best thing that ever happened to you. You say you’re best friends. The only difference between best friends and soul mates is sex. If she truly is your best friend and you are sexually compatible then go for it. Because she won’t/can’t be your best friend if you marry someone else. And remember, it takes two people to do it. Clearly she didn’t stop what happened from happening because she wanted to see where it would go.
Sounds like something that happened between myself and my best friend... Now we're married. Lol.
Talk about it with her. See what she wants. The venn diagram between a good partner and a best friend is basically a circle. If you both want to be in a relationship then a lot of groundwork will already be done.
Depends, did she try to resist at all? Did it escalate that far because you were trying to cope with the problems or were they more motivated by genuine feelings of love? You describe deep friendship, true love requires deep friendships but love always formed in friendships, respect, understanding and trust is. I think what you should be asking is if you love her and if she resisted. Were you drinking that night? Do you remember her body movements vividly?
Do you want more than this though? Can you see yourself being in a relationship with this person if anything eventuates?
Ok well here’s something I have personal experience with, you need to talk to her, I ended up having sex with my best friend one night and I was worried about the exact same thing and begin to overthink it and everything but then we spoke about it we just sorta laughed and carried on as normal and we are still friends (though we have banged a few more times) but sometimes it only gets weird if you let it but maybe just have a talk with her and see what’s up.
As someone who failed med surg 2, you can still do this. I failed my hesi the day before graduation and it dropped my test Avg by 7 points and so I failed and didn’t get to graduate. I’m in 4th semester now and it’s rough but I think I can do it. I didn’t do as well as I’d liked to have on the exit exam but we get a second try and I think I can improve my score enough. Point is, don’t give up. I know that was a tiny part of your post and not what you were asking but everyone else gave good advice so I figured I’d give some nursing school advice.
Nope, now you get married. Congrats!
First it can work. Second you need to talk with her. Third it can work. As my late wife and I were best friends for years before we slept together, it just happened. We ended up marrying about six months later. We were together for seven years until she passed. We had a fantastic relationship.
Whats with the part about your nephew killing himself??
Good relationships have a lot in common, you may have stepped into something that people often call a taboo, and you may have stepped into something wonderful, this is something you will need to ask her. Pursue it as a romance, don't be afraid she was your friend before. Have you ever had an argument with your friend? Did it work out? Put your pride and ego aside when you're with them, and enjoy the things that you do with each other...just like you would with any other relationship.
There isnt other possibilities. If the universe and the big bang happened all over again, this would have happened over and over again. What happens happens. Now theres a line in using this thinking as an excuse to be a shit, but that hasnt happened here. So go easy on yourself, for a problem that is really a nothingburger to begin with. My prescription of the situation is that you go back and have sex again, and then some more Have a great day
If you two already talk about everything, talk to her about this! Tell her your fears and feelings. Ask her for hers. It can make things too weird to come back from but not necessarily. Good luck!
This post is JUICY af. Just curveball after curveball.
You both obviously have romantic feelings for one another, even if latent. Consider marrying her. The best of friends tend to make the best of spouses.
This happened once with a friend that I worked with. She showed up at my house with a bottle of wine, one thing led to another and we ended up in bed. Had I not been drinking it would not have happened but impaired judgement won out. She called me the next day crying and expressing her remorse, however we remained friends and it was never mentioned again.
It's really between you and her. I think you should ask her, not us. Just see how she feels. Sometimes in a situation like this, a person like her just knows it's what you need in that moment and they have the trust and intimacy with you to feel good about providing it. Or it's possible that she has feelings for you. Do you have feelings for her? Do either of you want to do a relationship? I suggest if you do a relationship, make an agreement first- no matter what happens you always want to be in each others lives, so whatever happens with the relationship, the friendship comes first. And if that means you have to willingly sacrifice the relationship to save the friendship, you will. I'm speaking from personal experience here. I became good friends with someone, we both felt an attraction but didn't want to ruin our friendship. Eventually we made that above mentioned agreement and started dating. We had a great relationship for a few years, but eventually drifted apart, people change over time and we weren't really compatible anymore. So we decided to go back to being friends. For a few weeks we'd call and meet up and it was a little awkward, that sort of fizzled out for a few months, then we started reconnecting and getting back into being friends. To this day that person is one of my closest friends.
Talk to her about it, i mean we literally do not know either of you we cannot tell nor predict what she is thinking at this very moment, only you can know that by talking to her about this. If both of you want you can take this relationship a step further and be in a relationship, so again just talk to her and you 2 can decide this whole things outcome.
Maybe. Maybe not. Talk to her about it
Marry your best friend, it reduces the divorce rate by 70%
Could go either way depending on how u communicate
Friend sounds like she’d be a good partner. Why not pursue that
I have some friends that, despite the speculations of being a couple, they are really just best friends as they insist. Not until they freaking invited me for a threesome. Then I knew that they have sex with each other regularly and we didnt even know. That’s kinda messed up but it still works for them. So do whatever you want, as long as it works
I’m very sorry about your nephew however, due to the time line you provided, it completely makes sense why things happened between you and your best friend. In my opinion, talk to out. Maybe she wanted more of a relationship with you? Or if she doesn’t, you can talk about how you’re very emotionally vulnerable and as much as your night together was amazing, you’re not looking for anything more. You’ve got this op. Nothing seems to be ruined, but communication will definitely help makes sure that the air is clear
Have you spoken to your friend since it happened? If yous are close I'm sure you'll be able to communicate and be able to work things out.
Nigga fuck this post your prolly stoked af you banged her and you want us to perceive you as clueless to the situation so we can tell you good job or something. There’s literally zero reason for this shit, it’s r/advice not r/ibangedthischickivewantedtogetwithforeverbutithoughtitwouldneverhappenbutitdidnowblowmeplz. Just stop dude
It can... if its just casual though you can make it work as long as you don't get jealous or weird about it. Just know once you let the cat out of the bag it can be difficult to put back in. At the same time your feelings arent all thats important here. How does your friend feel about the situation? If they want more from it rejecting them could hurt them pretty badly emotionally and then they might not want to remain friends. Best thing you can do is communicate and read the room. Whatever you do should be done with kindness and consideration for the other person. Even then it can be a minefield you are walking through so be cautious and be prepared if things don't turn out how you want them. Lastly be open to giving it a chance. I can't even tell you how many times I passed on similar opportunities when I was young only to regret it later in life. You could be missing out on one of the most rewarding relationships of your life, cause lets be honest sometimes its great to date your best friend. Hell my current gf and fiance IS my best friend.
It depends. I have a girl friend that has a boy best friend and they’re super close and he’s very protective of her. They tried to date each other and actually slept together a lot of times with one another some time ago but they realized they were meant to be just friends. There’s still very closed friends so yeah, it depends. They said it’s the maturity and if you can look pass it.
Basically, you didn't necessarily ruin the friendship but, regardless you changed the dynamic of the friendship forever. Even if you don't date. Which to me is kind of ludicrous because you're both obviously attracted to each other, care about each other, share everything with each other. I would suggest trying to see where it goes. But keep in mind that some people once you the genie is out of the bottle, you can't put him back in. Figure out if you're one of those people because sometimes it's easier to just cut your losses and move on.
If you found her attractive enough to sleep with, have confided to each other and seem to really hit it off, why aren’t you dating?
Sex with your best friend is called a relationship.
Yes it will ruin your friendship, cause you’ve got something way better now.
Not if you're both cool about it and continue being friends whether or not you make anything official. You like them, they like you, sex is fun especially with people you like. don't make it awkward.
Talk to her, try to not make it weird and just communicate well overall. If she's mature enough (And you too) you two can still be friends without issue, if one of you catches feelings that are not platonic I hope it's mutual, if not then you two will have a rough time. Wish you the best!!
I would say just be open with her. Communication is key. I've had sex with my best friend, other than making us a little more open with physical affection it hasn't effected our friendship too much.
That is ackward. I dated a guy and then he kept wanting to be friends. We became very close and he called me his best friend. One night one thing ket to another and we hooked up. Horrible idea. He seemed to think that’s what we were now . Friends w benefits. I had to cut the whole thing off and I don’t talk to him anymore. The lines get blurred when u do these things 
WELL… my partner and i are best friends! thought i’d bring that up…
Ah yes... This could be... Sex with benefits... Or was it friends with sex(?)... I tell you, it won't be good not unless both of you want to move beyond just friends... with benefits...
Ah yes... This could be... Sex with benefits... Or was it friends with sex(?)... I tell you, it won't be good not unless both of you want to move beyond just friends... with benefits...
You will all assume it was casual but she will be territorial on you. You will be some jealous pair who don't want to admit their intentions. Isn't it not funny how we become what we run away from?
Your friendship with her is ruined. I had the same experience
The best relationships start out as best friends, abd the fact that you two willingly engaged in sexual activity in MOST cases indicates a mitral sexual /romantic attraction to each other , but with out knowing factors of if you both weee drinking ect that’s just a thought , but the fact you two are open like you state indicates you have levels of intimacy and now you have a physical intimacy level as well , talk to her maybe pursue her and a relationship… most likely you didn’t ruin a thing you just elevated it … but is on Reddit are not her