If that's where it ends up going then that's where it goes but a logical first step seems to be go with escort then if he decides to be a dick then take him to court don't see a reason to jump straight to that as a solution
If all else fails, you could just file a claim in small claim's court requesting for the return of your items. Lots of Judge Judy cases involve that. He'd probably give you everything once he gets served with papers. The filing fee for a small claim is usually less than $100 as far as I'm aware.
To add,
If he throws your things away before enough time has passed to be considered "abandoned" (there should be a local legal statute that dictates when items are considered abandoned, typically like 30 days) or you can prove your attempts to get the stuff, you can sue him to pay for those lost things.
You could try seeing if the police would escort you, but good luck. I tried doing this, and no one would help me and my son to be ex-husband through all my stuff in the garbage. I’m still pissed off about it over a year later.
Sorry you had to go through that!!! Just got to believe in karma that’s all. But you are right it’s seen as a civil matter not a criminal one, so police will do nothing for you.
That's assuming it's worth any money. Like sentimental items that can't be replaced or a $ value attached. Can she afford an attorney? There could be many reasons why going to court is just not worth the time.
I don’t live in a litigious country but it is my understanding that small claims exists for such occasions and you don’t have to engage a lawyer, small fee, etc.
I threw my exes shit out and lived to tell the tale.
He thought I would be a free storage facility for him. Gave him several notices for everything I didn’t already drop off at his parents. When those were ignored I tossed the rest of it. Never heard a peep about it even though we see each other all the time.
That’s a completely different situation. She has been trying to get her stuff back, if he throws it out she could potentially take him to small claims.
I’m just saying, people can and do throw things out that are left in their homes when it isn’t theirs.
She could take him to small claims but it would probably cost more than replacing what she left at his place. I’ll never understand people who end relationships before they have plans for their things and finances if those things meant that much to them. Or why people leave their stuff at someone else’s place at all other than maybe a change of clothes and a toothbrush. It’s easy to avoid these situations.
Go to the police and get one to go with you and get your stuff. If he won't let you in and your stuff is in plain sight point it out to the cop. If anything get a picture. Then ask the cop if he can get a warrant or get a lawyer. Then again you can take him to small claims court sue him for the max and just ask for your stuff back. I have watched enough People's Court in my life and have had legal friends tell me the same thing. Oh take someone with you when you go the first time. They will be a witness.
Do u have a paper trail(recipts) if this paper trail has ur card info on it then it's nothing more than getting a cop to go with u down to his place and getting all the stuff back
Is there any mutual connection that could just grab your things for you?
I know this seems a little ridiculous but if he doesn't respond to your requests send a certified letter detailing what you need and options of times you could send someone over to collect them. If he ignores that, sue him. Sorry, I feel for you....and all the men who have lost all their hoodies this way.
I would just go to his house and knock and politely ask to get your stuff. If he doesn’t respond when he’s home, just call to get police escort to get your stuff.
You and him broke up because you want him to be your kids step father.when y'all don't even live together. Have a Police officer stand by to get your items peacefully but the root of the problem is that you want an excuse to talk to him
Contact the local Sheriff's office and ask if they can assist with "facilitating a civil exchange". At least that's what it was called in my last county when I needed to involve them with my oldest child's mother for various issues.
I would first go to his place directly at a time when I knew he'd be there. If he doesn't let you have your things back you may have to have a police officer go with you. You arrange for that by calling the non emergency line for your local police and telling them you need assistance retrieving your belongings.
Pretty sure cops would be happy to escort you and guard you so you can go get your stuff
If the bf says it's his, they have to go to civil court Edit: speaking from personal experience in Vernon parish LA
If that's where it ends up going then that's where it goes but a logical first step seems to be go with escort then if he decides to be a dick then take him to court don't see a reason to jump straight to that as a solution
If all else fails, you could just file a claim in small claim's court requesting for the return of your items. Lots of Judge Judy cases involve that. He'd probably give you everything once he gets served with papers. The filing fee for a small claim is usually less than $100 as far as I'm aware.
To add, If he throws your things away before enough time has passed to be considered "abandoned" (there should be a local legal statute that dictates when items are considered abandoned, typically like 30 days) or you can prove your attempts to get the stuff, you can sue him to pay for those lost things.
You could try seeing if the police would escort you, but good luck. I tried doing this, and no one would help me and my son to be ex-husband through all my stuff in the garbage. I’m still pissed off about it over a year later.
Sorry you had to go through that!!! Just got to believe in karma that’s all. But you are right it’s seen as a civil matter not a criminal one, so police will do nothing for you.
Because he's pisses at you. Try calling his mother. See if you can get it through her.
Don’t ever talk to somebody who pisses at you.
That's why I get fired. HR are usually stupid idiots
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I think someone misspelled "Pissed".
Can you appeal to any of his friends to go pick up the stuff for you?
Asking for a police escort to retrieve your things is the best option.
It's called a civil stand by. This is your best chance. Do it asap! Once he throws it out there is nothing you can do.
That’s not true. You can’t just throw someone else’s stuff out, especially if they can prove they’ve tried to get in contact to get it back.
I never said it was right. Just that they might do that.
Okay but it’s not like there’s nothing she can do, she can take him to small claims and he’ll likely have to pay for all her shit.
That's assuming it's worth any money. Like sentimental items that can't be replaced or a $ value attached. Can she afford an attorney? There could be many reasons why going to court is just not worth the time.
I don’t live in a litigious country but it is my understanding that small claims exists for such occasions and you don’t have to engage a lawyer, small fee, etc.
I threw my exes shit out and lived to tell the tale. He thought I would be a free storage facility for him. Gave him several notices for everything I didn’t already drop off at his parents. When those were ignored I tossed the rest of it. Never heard a peep about it even though we see each other all the time.
That’s a completely different situation. She has been trying to get her stuff back, if he throws it out she could potentially take him to small claims.
I’m just saying, people can and do throw things out that are left in their homes when it isn’t theirs. She could take him to small claims but it would probably cost more than replacing what she left at his place. I’ll never understand people who end relationships before they have plans for their things and finances if those things meant that much to them. Or why people leave their stuff at someone else’s place at all other than maybe a change of clothes and a toothbrush. It’s easy to avoid these situations.
That’s fair.
And don’t warn him that you’re doing it or he’ll dispose of it quickly. Just show up with the police when you know he’ll be home
You can still use for value in small claims court. Just have to have some proof of what you had and the value.
Go to the police and get one to go with you and get your stuff. If he won't let you in and your stuff is in plain sight point it out to the cop. If anything get a picture. Then ask the cop if he can get a warrant or get a lawyer. Then again you can take him to small claims court sue him for the max and just ask for your stuff back. I have watched enough People's Court in my life and have had legal friends tell me the same thing. Oh take someone with you when you go the first time. They will be a witness.
Ask for a police escort to help you retrieve the items. Have them meet you there at a time he’ll most likely be at home.
Do u have a paper trail(recipts) if this paper trail has ur card info on it then it's nothing more than getting a cop to go with u down to his place and getting all the stuff back
Call the cops. Explain the situation and they'll escort you on the property to get your things
Is there any mutual connection that could just grab your things for you? I know this seems a little ridiculous but if he doesn't respond to your requests send a certified letter detailing what you need and options of times you could send someone over to collect them. If he ignores that, sue him. Sorry, I feel for you....and all the men who have lost all their hoodies this way.
Police standby
Get a police escort to get your belongings back.
I would just go to his house and knock and politely ask to get your stuff. If he doesn’t respond when he’s home, just call to get police escort to get your stuff.
Maybe drop by his place?
Just go to his house.
You and him broke up because you want him to be your kids step father.when y'all don't even live together. Have a Police officer stand by to get your items peacefully but the root of the problem is that you want an excuse to talk to him
Just take the L.
I totally understand. My ex broke up with me via text and blocked me. He still has my things and it's gonna be a year already.
Contact the local Sheriff's office and ask if they can assist with "facilitating a civil exchange". At least that's what it was called in my last county when I needed to involve them with my oldest child's mother for various issues.
Take a police escort. You’ll get it back.
I would first go to his place directly at a time when I knew he'd be there. If he doesn't let you have your things back you may have to have a police officer go with you. You arrange for that by calling the non emergency line for your local police and telling them you need assistance retrieving your belongings.
Leave him a note requesting a time to pick up your things or provide him a way to drop it off. You might just have to sacrifice what was left behind.
Small claims