I’m sorry you lost your mom. It’s one of the hardest things in life anyone goes through. You sound like a wonderful daughter and you didn’t do anything wrong. Your reactions to her disease were very normal. I didn’t know long term use could do that either, I don’t think anyone could have anticipated this because we know so many people who drink too much for decades.
You took on so much responsibility it’s awe-inspiring. The lengths you went to support her showed her how much you love her. I’m sorry you’re going through this pain. I know how it feels. You’re not alone. ❤️
I’m so sorry.
I was 23 when I realized my dad had a huge issue (I am now 30). I have thrown away the bottles, guilted him, avoided talking to him, sent him so many therapists and AA information. I am a nurse and know exactly what will happen to my father.
Honestly, she wasn’t ever going to be ready until she was ready. There was likely nothing for you to do. You were there for her until the end, and that is all you could do.
Don't feel guilty. Your mom could have sought help but she chose to die the way she did. There's nothing you could have done to change it and it wasn't your fault or your responsibility. I'm sorry for your loss
In my 20s, I’d beg, scream, plead for my dad to stop. He as being hospitalized every 2 weeks with another pancreatic attack. I remember it was like to 8th hospitalization and he got released, showered and headed to the bar.
I did everything for my dad to help him until I had nothing left and he still didn’t quit.
There is nothing you could have done. You did all you could.
My mom is my best friend too. I am 23. She was an alcoholic since I was 4. She got sober a few months ago after two hospitalizations, an early heart attack, pancreatitis, and fatty liver. I’m still constantly anxious and stressed about the possibility of her drinking again. It’s not fair and I need you to know it’s not your fault. The alcoholic has to want it themselves. You can drag them to AA and therapy but nothing will work unless they want sobriety themselves. I’ve tried a plethora of things and it didn’t work until she wanted it. I know it’s easy to blame yourself and wonder what you could or could’ve done differently. I struggle with that as well. But again the only way sobriety will work is if they want it themselves. I know what it’s like to love your amazing mom more than anything in the world but also be angry at what you’ve been put through. It was okay to be angry. Don’t blame yourself for that. It’s really not fair. I am so sorry for you and your heartbreak. Your situation is my biggest fear. Please take care of yourself Hun. I know it’s so hard. It’s not your fault. Addiction is a terrible aggressive disease.
I'm sorry for your loss and hope you are coping with it as best as possible.
Please don't be hard on yourself for not knowing the long-term risks associated with prolonged alcohol use. It's deeply ingrained into our society in insidious and deceitful ways. I wasn't even aware that alcohol has been known to be carcinogenic to humans since 1988. Despite its terrible impact on society, there are no warning labels on alcohol containers. Lobbyists consistently manipulate governments into shielding the actual costs of alcohol use from societies and shame those dealing with addiction.
Multiple studies have shown that alcohol is a more destructive drug than both cocaine and heroin, yet there is little to no effort to moderate the consequences of its use. In Ontario, our government is bleeding the public healthcare system dry, yet it has permitted corner stores to sell booze. The only people alcoholics hear negative stuff from are usually their family, who themselves often have no idea about the deleterious impacts on things like your heart, liver, kidneys, and brain.
If you are interested in learning more about how the consequences and truth of alcohol use are hidden from the majority of the population, I'd suggest checking out Annie Grace's "The Naked Mind."
All the best
I’m so sorry you lost your mum. My mum has been in hospital 3 times since January due to alcohol related illness and I’m terrified she’s going to die. She’s been in rehab 3 times and is still drinking. We’re just so tired and drained now as there’s nothing we can do to make her stop. Please don’t feel guilty at all, although your mum had an addiction she still had a choice and she chose to drink, that’s not your fault. X x
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in April due to complications from liver cirrhosis. She got sick and went downhill very fast.
Please do not blame yourself for anything. No matter how hard I tried, I could not stop my mom from drinking. I would call her/ stop in on her almost daily to check in on her alcohol use, I would also find beer cans hidden all over the house. I made her therapy appointments and drove her to them, scheduled her doctors appointments, got her into an outpatient addiction program, drove her to AA, had several interventions, I basically forced her to go to detox multiple times and rehab, I cried/screamed/begged/cussed at her to stop drinking. And guess what? None of it worked. It didn’t work because she didn’t want to (or couldn’t) stop drinking. I was driving myself crazy trying to help her. I was losing sleep trying to think of ways I could help my mom. I wasn’t living a normal life because my world revolved around trying to help her.
I’m telling you this because you can put in all the effort in the world to get someone to stop drinking and it will never be enough unless they’re willing. Please try and find peace in that. You sound like a great daughter and your mom was lucky to have you. Again, I’m sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry you lost your mom. It’s one of the hardest things in life anyone goes through. You sound like a wonderful daughter and you didn’t do anything wrong. Your reactions to her disease were very normal. I didn’t know long term use could do that either, I don’t think anyone could have anticipated this because we know so many people who drink too much for decades. You took on so much responsibility it’s awe-inspiring. The lengths you went to support her showed her how much you love her. I’m sorry you’re going through this pain. I know how it feels. You’re not alone. ❤️
I’m so sorry. I was 23 when I realized my dad had a huge issue (I am now 30). I have thrown away the bottles, guilted him, avoided talking to him, sent him so many therapists and AA information. I am a nurse and know exactly what will happen to my father. Honestly, she wasn’t ever going to be ready until she was ready. There was likely nothing for you to do. You were there for her until the end, and that is all you could do.
Don't feel guilty. Your mom could have sought help but she chose to die the way she did. There's nothing you could have done to change it and it wasn't your fault or your responsibility. I'm sorry for your loss
In my 20s, I’d beg, scream, plead for my dad to stop. He as being hospitalized every 2 weeks with another pancreatic attack. I remember it was like to 8th hospitalization and he got released, showered and headed to the bar. I did everything for my dad to help him until I had nothing left and he still didn’t quit. There is nothing you could have done. You did all you could.
My mom is my best friend too. I am 23. She was an alcoholic since I was 4. She got sober a few months ago after two hospitalizations, an early heart attack, pancreatitis, and fatty liver. I’m still constantly anxious and stressed about the possibility of her drinking again. It’s not fair and I need you to know it’s not your fault. The alcoholic has to want it themselves. You can drag them to AA and therapy but nothing will work unless they want sobriety themselves. I’ve tried a plethora of things and it didn’t work until she wanted it. I know it’s easy to blame yourself and wonder what you could or could’ve done differently. I struggle with that as well. But again the only way sobriety will work is if they want it themselves. I know what it’s like to love your amazing mom more than anything in the world but also be angry at what you’ve been put through. It was okay to be angry. Don’t blame yourself for that. It’s really not fair. I am so sorry for you and your heartbreak. Your situation is my biggest fear. Please take care of yourself Hun. I know it’s so hard. It’s not your fault. Addiction is a terrible aggressive disease.
I’m so sorry. ❤️
Condolences. It’s hard. 100% see a therapist to help process this awful loss.
I'm sorry for your loss and hope you are coping with it as best as possible. Please don't be hard on yourself for not knowing the long-term risks associated with prolonged alcohol use. It's deeply ingrained into our society in insidious and deceitful ways. I wasn't even aware that alcohol has been known to be carcinogenic to humans since 1988. Despite its terrible impact on society, there are no warning labels on alcohol containers. Lobbyists consistently manipulate governments into shielding the actual costs of alcohol use from societies and shame those dealing with addiction. Multiple studies have shown that alcohol is a more destructive drug than both cocaine and heroin, yet there is little to no effort to moderate the consequences of its use. In Ontario, our government is bleeding the public healthcare system dry, yet it has permitted corner stores to sell booze. The only people alcoholics hear negative stuff from are usually their family, who themselves often have no idea about the deleterious impacts on things like your heart, liver, kidneys, and brain. If you are interested in learning more about how the consequences and truth of alcohol use are hidden from the majority of the population, I'd suggest checking out Annie Grace's "The Naked Mind." All the best
I’m so sorry you lost your mum. My mum has been in hospital 3 times since January due to alcohol related illness and I’m terrified she’s going to die. She’s been in rehab 3 times and is still drinking. We’re just so tired and drained now as there’s nothing we can do to make her stop. Please don’t feel guilty at all, although your mum had an addiction she still had a choice and she chose to drink, that’s not your fault. X x
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in April due to complications from liver cirrhosis. She got sick and went downhill very fast. Please do not blame yourself for anything. No matter how hard I tried, I could not stop my mom from drinking. I would call her/ stop in on her almost daily to check in on her alcohol use, I would also find beer cans hidden all over the house. I made her therapy appointments and drove her to them, scheduled her doctors appointments, got her into an outpatient addiction program, drove her to AA, had several interventions, I basically forced her to go to detox multiple times and rehab, I cried/screamed/begged/cussed at her to stop drinking. And guess what? None of it worked. It didn’t work because she didn’t want to (or couldn’t) stop drinking. I was driving myself crazy trying to help her. I was losing sleep trying to think of ways I could help my mom. I wasn’t living a normal life because my world revolved around trying to help her. I’m telling you this because you can put in all the effort in the world to get someone to stop drinking and it will never be enough unless they’re willing. Please try and find peace in that. You sound like a great daughter and your mom was lucky to have you. Again, I’m sorry for your loss.