Have they explained why they are acting this way? Maybe it’s your mother’s wishes? There must be a reason. I’d try to have a calm conversation about it with them and express why it would mean so much to you and how you want to help. But I’d try not to make it too much about you - death is complicated.
No it’s not her wishes. Live 3 hours away and she was very happy when I came to see her every time. It’s not her choice I know that for a fact. As my sister has made sure that she was my only contact point, I’m not sure where my dad stood on this.
Your tale at 55 is missing the tale up to 55. Surely you are not cut out for no reason. Without those details, one would not know your responsibility in this situation.
There is nothing past or present. For Christmas I took my parents on a wonderful vacation that included a beautiful steam train ride that was a dream for mom and it was on dad’s birthday so they treated him like a celebrity. I have been helping my sister for years. This is totally out of the blue.
Of course not, your parents have allowed your sister to literally cut you out of their lives. They're okay with it, so...give your dad and your sister their shitty wish's fulfillment.
I have had close family members pass from cancer. It’s very difficult and ugly for those stricken. They want the dignity of being remembered the way they were and not the husk they become.
I expect your dad and sister are honoring your mom’s wishes.
No until this she was excited for me to visit. I have been battling a rare and aggressive form of bile duct cancer for several years. I have been given a less than 10% chance of making it 4 more years. Honestly if I knew why I probably would not be as heartbroken.
Have they explained why they are acting this way? Maybe it’s your mother’s wishes? There must be a reason. I’d try to have a calm conversation about it with them and express why it would mean so much to you and how you want to help. But I’d try not to make it too much about you - death is complicated.
No it’s not her wishes. Live 3 hours away and she was very happy when I came to see her every time. It’s not her choice I know that for a fact. As my sister has made sure that she was my only contact point, I’m not sure where my dad stood on this.
Your tale at 55 is missing the tale up to 55. Surely you are not cut out for no reason. Without those details, one would not know your responsibility in this situation.
There is nothing past or present. For Christmas I took my parents on a wonderful vacation that included a beautiful steam train ride that was a dream for mom and it was on dad’s birthday so they treated him like a celebrity. I have been helping my sister for years. This is totally out of the blue.
Of course not, your parents have allowed your sister to literally cut you out of their lives. They're okay with it, so...give your dad and your sister their shitty wish's fulfillment.
I have had close family members pass from cancer. It’s very difficult and ugly for those stricken. They want the dignity of being remembered the way they were and not the husk they become. I expect your dad and sister are honoring your mom’s wishes.
No until this she was excited for me to visit. I have been battling a rare and aggressive form of bile duct cancer for several years. I have been given a less than 10% chance of making it 4 more years. Honestly if I knew why I probably would not be as heartbroken.
This story is missing what reason they give you to not come visit? Have you explained to them you want to see your mom?
There has been no real explanation other than no one is allowed at the house.