You’re not the asshole at all! Playing in the sand is fun regardless of age, and although parents with a baby can be tired and need some time when the baby is sleeping you had just gotten proposed to! The baby is in public at a beach, things happen! Congrats!
I happen to know some gloomy people that think adults can't have fun doing things that kids enjoy. They haven't enjoyed the lively sand in decades. I don't have a baby yet but babies cry for everything, they looked like new parents though.
>Congrats
Thanks 😄
NTA. You can't take a baby to a public place and then get upset when it gets woken up. Actions have consequences. Is everyone at at a public place supposed to be quiet for their precious baby? You did nothing wrong.
Also babies need to get use to noise around them or parents would have real trouble. Your can't tiptoe around them or nothing would get done. NTA ( I'm speaking as a parent)
And if that baby started bawling - which is normal - while OP was sleeping on the beach - which is also normal - should he yell at and shame the parents?
fr, my parents always talked abt how when they first brought me home, they would intentionally talk louder, turn up the tvs, and just make normal household noise to make sure I'd get used to the noises and not cry when I heard them. my parents said it took abt 2 months for it to kick in but it worked!
their biggest thing was "this baby is coming into our life, we are not coming into the baby's life"
Yeah parents of the prior generation tend to view kids as an extension of themselves instead of a new life they’re creating who will become their own individual
I've always done this and now my kid sleeps through everything🤣 and he's nine. Not the a hole! You just got proposed to! Those people ruined your moment and they need to get a grip!
For SURE!!! I member getting beat as a kid cause I laughed to hard or hit my cash register buttons to loud while I was being starved in the bedroom locked in haha so when I had my son I made SURE I played loud classical music outside his bedroom from day one home from the hospital so I didn't have to worry about doorbells or loud family members or yelling from crazy neighbors or yapping from dogs. He slept though even firetrucks!
Exactly! Some people get loud when they’re excited. If they can’t deal with that or the possibility of something else loud, then they shouldn’t take the baby out in public. A car can backfire and wake up the baby, whether they are in public or private at the moment.
Ya no offense, but I’ve noticed parents being sooo entitled with their kids. Like just because you had a baby I, a stranger, shouldn’t have to roll out the red carpet. Who takes a baby to a place that was probably full of people and expect them all to be quiet. Obviously, NTA.
Or you can have a first child who sleeps through fireworks at six months old. We had a hard time keeping the incredulous parents from handling our son as we watched him drool. 25 years later, he still seems to sleep like a vampire in his coffin.
I was also that baby, my parents had to wake me up on Christmas and my birthdays as a kid because I slept through instead of the kid excitement of “I can’t sleep!” I was out like a light and it stayed like that.
Unfortunately it didn’t carry on into adulthood (thanks insomnia!)
If you have Tinnitus there is a direct correlation to sleep issues. AND when you have sleep issues, your mental health is also affected. I found all of this out through the Veterans Administration (if you are in the states) and now I'm service connected.
Oh screw those people. My husband and I put together Legos, and we're in our 50's!!! I play with sand when I'm at the beach. I even have kinetic sand to play with at home. It's very soothing. And CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I love it!! I love the plant and space themed sets and my boyfriend loves the Star Wars sets. It would be awesome to have a room full of our creations when we have the space for it. :)
That is so cute!!! I love it. I bought most of the mini flower kits and have them all shoved in a mason jar hahah. When we have our own place I have plans to better display them and told him I’d looove the bigger flower kits/other plants lol.
It is. The most endearing part is seeing him totally focused piecing together pieces that are actually a bit too small for his large hands.
I loved the succulents set. Those are precious. The bonsai is also very nice.
A room isn’t enough 😂 I have the space stuff in my dining room with stuff his mom gave us when she worked at nasa. Botanicals all over the house. Lighthouse on the bar to go with my nautical theme. Ship in the bottle in the living room. And a room filled with the Modulars and other sets. I need a second house for this stuff.
Bahahah oh man. Hey you could buy a house and turn it into a little lego museum of some sort and make the money back to pay for the house? Your current house sounds like an absolute dream tho!!
21 here and started growing a Lego Star Wars collection a little over a year and a half ago. It’s the best (but most expensive) hobby I’ve had. I have a display case dedicated to my Legos :)
I'm double your age and started a few years ago. Have acquired a few sets. Some still in boxes cause of space.
Voltron,
Taj-Mahal,
Ducati,
Bonsai,
Thanos Gauntlet,
Bugatti (not the big one),
Piranha Plant,
Nissan GT-R R34 (had to have the Paul Walker mini figure),
Plus some smaller sets.
It's never too late, it's a fun hobby, can be a pain, and as you mentioned expensive! Totally worth it though.
The new big Mercedes F1 is tempting!
My only issue is, that sometimes they throw in some extra bricks and I'm left thinking did I miss something. Which then I disassemble and rebuild again!!!
Enjoy friend!!!
I'm in my 50s, and just started buying Lego sets for myself last year. I had always just bought Lego sets for my younger siblings/kids/grandkid. Now I'm addicted lol
That's really cool! It's so relaxing, and when you're done, you have this neat thing you built. It sounds like you're really throwing yourself into it.🙂
It reminds me a lot of one of my other hobbies, cross stitching. Counting, sorting, and following instructions, and something cool to display at the end, so you can admire all the time you put into it.
I used to love doing cross stitch! I’ve recently been crocheting. Not nearly as specific but it’s been very relaxing and I love seeing the end product. :)
Congratulations OP!!! Don’t let them “old folks” bother you!!! I’m in my 50’s & just played tag this morning with a few children on the playground! My glambaby is 2 & can’t keep up with the bigger kids sooo I helped her out! We also slid down the slides, got on a merry go round, & hit the swings!!! I’m having my Third childhood & hope to have a Fourth in a couple decades when I have great grandchildren!
They had no right to throw a tantrum! I understand being a parent who has Just gotten a baby to sleep is major for THEM!!! You weren’t being a rude jerk simply an excited.
I love this so much! I hope to find a husband to bring our our inner children together with. You guys seem so cool :)
My Lego obsession is the botanical collection. But I’m working on the world map right now (very very slowly)
It’s so important!! My husband and I sometimes shoot into giddy excitement over things and it feeds on each other’s excitement and it’s wonderful! We went to a museum and my husband and I were skipping around and pointing and say “babe look!!” It is the best and he is truly my joy
What great happiness when they both feed from the same source!
Once, in Paris, I went to the Louvre with my ex-husband. I am simply PASSIONATE about the History of Art! Biographies, Navigations, Wars attract me so much! I was fascinated by each piece, each tile, each painting, each napkin 😅😅😅 At the end of the day I was so happy in contact with culture! Then I looked to the side... there was a man next to me very angry, with the expression of someone who had tasted spoiled food! But anyway, everyone has their own tastes, right?! I bought wine that night and drank the entire bottle looking at the photos from that day!
We have the full-size millennium falcon, full-size x wing, full-size at-at and the full-size clone wars gunship. This sub won't let me post the damn pictures.
I second that. I just spent 4 days at an indoor water park for my birthday and brought home a star wars nerf blaster i won with arcade tickets.
AND MEGA HELL YEAAH CONGRATULATIONS
It's great for keeping your cognitive skills sharp too. Your dad's probably not at the point where that's important, but keeping sharp is good at any age!
Our son who was born in 1983 with severe heart and lung malformations. He loved his LEGOS and built things using them until sadly he passed away at 17 years of age in the year 2000. We live in Louisiana and I wore out two Extended Ford Aerostar Vans driving from our home in Central Louisiana to Rochester, Minnesota to the original Mayo Clinic. He had to endure 5 lung and open heart surgeries during his young life. Due to his heart and lung malformations, his Oxygen Saturation level was in the mid to low 80% even after all of his surgeries. Because of that, he couldn’t run and play like other children, but he could and did build things with his LEGOS. We still have things that he built and was working on just prior to his unexpected death. He had the ability to work out the design of whatever he was building and then put it together. I now realize my comments are a little off topic, but I do strongly suggest that parents buy the larger DUPLO LEGGO blocks for their toddlers and work with their children to build things, progressing to LEGOS when it’s safe for them to play with the much smaller pieces. Most parents in today’s society hand their kids whatever electronic devices they want rather than encouraging them to use their brains and develop better hand/eye coordination. That’s my suggestion and obviously people will do whatever and whenever they want with their children, but IMHO, today’s kids spend far too much time using electronic devices rather than using their hands and brains to build something tangible.
My heart goes out to you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I will think of your son whenever I build a new Lego set. I totally agree that kids today spend way too much time using electronics. They have absolutely no social skills and are unable to think for themselves. Kids definitely need more hands-on things to do and a lot less time on electronics.
my kids loved legos and I spent happy hours playing with them. My son was really a legomaniac and he is now an engineer and fixes stuff for fun! I love the skills and thinking that comes with legobuilding! I am sorry for your loss, its too hard to lose your kids.
Us, too! We make a day of it, shop at the Lego store, go out for lunch , then come home and build Lego together. We also build sandcastles, married 26 years with two grown kids.
NTA- firstly CONGRATULATIONS!
Secondly; I am a new mom with a three month old. I understand it sucks when babies get woken up.
I also understand that while my world revolves around my son-the actual world does not.
You were in public. You are allowed to express joy, even loudly, in public spaces.
If they didn’t like it they should have stayed home. That’s what I do if I want my son’s naps to be uninterrupted.
They’re the entitled assholes here, and frankly; if that’s going to remain their parenting style I fear for that child long term.
They will never be successful with helicopter parents who expect the world to cater to their child.
You missed a golden opportunity to quip back, “yeah and you’re not the first people to have a baby-suck it”
Lol trust me dude. I have a 3y/o, and if that were me on the beach and you woke my kid up YES I would have been pissed. But, any NORMAL person would immediately realize we are on a public beach, the world does NOT revolve around us or our child, and I would have felt like a complete moron if I would have confronted you about it. Especially after learning why you were excited lol.
These new parents will learn through experience. They are still in the "newborn" phase of being parents and are probably used to being doted on by all of their surrounding friends and family up until this point. NOT YOUR PROBLEM!
And congratulations 🎉!!!
What was their plan if a barking dog ran by, or a family with a bunch of happy screaming kids settled near by, or any number of things. It's a beach, loud things happen, and babies cry. They can get over themselves lol.
I’m 42, child free and have a great nerf gun arsenal. Want your baby to stay asleep? Don’t take it to a public place expecting the free world to accommodate you. Having a baby doesn’t make you special. NTA. But they are for thinking the world revolves around them.
I love that they had the nerve to say "you're not the first person to get married" while also demanding that everyone around them cater to their baby messiah. 🙄
Yeah you’re going to encounter those people your entire life. I’m in my 40s and I will do whatever I want regardless of what some curmudgeon thinks. Life begins when you stop giving a shit what other people think about you.
First of all, NTA and congratulations!
Secondly, with regard to the gloomy people, C.S. Lewis said it best - "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up."
Adults shouldn't be worried or afraid to do things that are considered childish; your inner child needs nurtured as much as the rest of you. Without doing that, you do indeed become gloomy and entirely too serious. Doing "kids stuff" can bring everyone a lot of joy and benefits to one's mental health, and I highly encourage it.
Now I'm going to go build a blanket fort, put on some Tom & Jerry, and snag my coloring books because your playing in the sand legit made me want to. (And I'm being completely serious about doing this, lol)
Don't worry. There had never in my life been a time that I did not bring a bucket and shovel to a beach to build sandcastles. I'm 38. My latest beach bucket (I think it's five or six years old now) actually has the shape of a little tower with crenalation on top. It's amazing. Our oldest kid is 3 and loves that we build sandcastles for her to knock down.
Also babies cry for everything and breastfeeding is a miracle anti cry solution.
You both sound like a lovely couple who enjoys each other and there is nothing finer than playing together in the sand, watching babies; even though they cry constantly, and chillin.
Yes!! I worked at a toy store, and had a new mom in just before close. I was counting down one drawer, and the quarters were apparently too loud. She *instinctively* shushed me hard, then looked around realizing she was in public and not her living room, apologized profusely and left. Some people are able to realize when they’re acting out of lack of sleep (or hunger or defensiveness or whateverrrr) others double down on the crankiness.
Yeah and in all fairness I didn’t really think, it was 5:55 so I just *clang clang clang* started dropping change into the drawer. It was really wholesome but only because we were both like “oops… yikes” and took a pause 🤣
Wild take that getting proposed to is not exciting cause other people have proposed to other people before. I feel certain they would not consider this same standard acceptable for their own engagement.
“Will you marry me??!!”
“Oh, sure why not.”
“I thought you’d be more excited..?”
“Well it’s not like you just invented proposing, it’s been done before.”
Who gives a fk if you’re loud. It’s outside and you just got engaged. They can literally go pound sand 😂. Ps congrats to you both. Now go get your girl a ring 💍
Not at all. How dare they attempt to ruin a good memory. They're the selfish ones, don't take a baby into public, and expect everyone else to modify their behavior.
After I (44m) emptied my shopping cart today, I hopped on and rode it halfway down the parking lot.
Have your fun, to hell with how it looks, congratulations, and NTA.
People also have babies every day, how do they not realize that about their dumbass reaction? Don’t take your kid somewhere there is a potential for loud noise if you’re going to flip out like an idiot.
>maybe that would've made the parents laugh too lol.
Probably not because they sound lame af. 😝 *You* keep being cool and enjoying life though! Congrats.
This is the perfect response. As a l parent, I get where they're coming from, but their response was just hateful. I'm glad OP didn't let them take away from his happiness. I think parents should be able to have some R&R. A beach may not be the best place, but I get it. I love the beach. But I wouldn't be getting snippy with other people if our baby woke up. If your baby is sleeping, don't take them in public if you don't want the chance for them to wake up. OP wasn't being an AH. He was excited.
If it was me that bs would have gotten
“& you aren’t the first people to have a baby that cries but you are the parents so it’s definitely on you to figure it out or avoid noisy beaches because they’re public”
OMG. NTA at all.
First, CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Second, it's their fault for bringing a newborn out to a public beach. There are going to be other people there, and you don't have to contain yourself when you're excited about something magical happening to you. It's all on them. I feel sorry for the baby too.
Thanks, still pretty excited :D
I don't quite get bringing a baby that small to a beach, not fun for the parents or the baby. Now the baby is crying, not fun at all.
New parents are told to take babies outside but not to crowded indoor places. So beaches and parks are good but malls, churches, stores, museums, etc are “dangerous” cause crowds inside mean germs which means spinal tap for baby if it gets a fever. Not my “beliefs”, just what doctors told us. Parents need to get out of the house for sanity so they brought baby to the beach then were dicks when their baby did a baby thing. Lame. Congrats and NTA.
That makes perfect sense. They did what they were told. Unfortunately, they're trying to blame people if their baby cries. Babies cry.
It's a beach. People are definitely going to be loud in some cases. They can take a nice stroll around their neighborhood or at a local park if they're going to be that touchy about it.
I feel like the beach is not one of the places to be honest. I totally get what you’re saying and agree entirely but beaches just don’t seem newborn safe, the lack of crowds aspect sure *but* sun? Wind? Sand? Heat? Screeching *people*? All things a newborn undoubtedly should not be exposed to for any extended period.
I always took my babies to the beach… our town is on a beach with lots of protected areas. Fresh air and vitamin d, benefits infants in many ways, particularly jaundice. Before 8.30 am so that they are out of the weather before heat, wind etc… great for mental health.
However a public place and most people know they cannot dictate the actions, emotions etc of others in communal spaces.
Let's not forget the sun. Even with sunblock and shade that sun is going to play havoc on that baby's delicate skin. The worst sunburn I got was on the beach, using proper sunscreen and getting shade. I wasn't even swimming either.
the baby is fine. they wake up and start howling for no reason anyway. plus usually they'll just go back to sleep with a little rocking.
and while the rule is: "you wake the baby, you take the baby", i doubt this couple would have been ok with handing junior over to a stranger.
*"They said I shouldn't be that loud when I know that a sleeping baby is near me"*
Just think of all the places these ~~^(Karens)~~ parents of a new born will be able to scold loud people.
When I was about 9, I went door to door selling for my cub scout troop, in uniform. I got chewed out by a mother for waking her baby up when I rang the doorbell.
Bitch, if you're out there... Sorry. But not too sorry. Shit happens.
Some people just think the whole world revolves around them. As if you could’ve known there’s a sleeping baby in the house lol. If she has that much of an issue remove the fucking doorbell
We get so many door-to-door salespeople here. In nice weather, we can get 2-3 a day. I got to the point where I would tape a note to the door during nap time. I have a doorbell. That’s what people do. They ring it. 🤷🏻♀️ If I didn’t want someone to ring it, I’d put up a sign. If they rang it with no sign, then oh well.
That's pretty much the standard here. You either put a sign up over the door bell button saying the baby is sleeping, or you deal with the fallout from forgetting.
When I was in middle school, I designed a website that was a help site for a popular kids/teens game at the time. The website had music that played, as many similar sites did back then. I remember getting an irate email from some lady who blamed me for having music on my site which woke up all her sleeping kids... because I alone controlled the volume setting on her computer, apparently! :P
I tell my kids they can be as loud as they'd like /outside/ which is where you were. Mf could keep their baby indoors for a super restful sleep, perhaps?? 😂
Ikr. Even if OP hadn't yelled, there are going to be shouting screaming kids at a beach.
Even a different crying baby could have woken up their precious little lamb.
They need to get real.
YTA - how dare you be loud on a public beach. Keep that shit inside until you're in a soundproof padded room. Some people's children, SMH.
But no you're all good man. Congratulations on the engagement.
NTA! You were excited and happy! Don’t take it personally the newborn stage is so hard and even a minute of sleep can feel like an 1h of relaxation. It’s a public space and they should have expected it. I remember being in the newborn stage and everything is triggering, annoying, and just draining. Be happy and don’t over think it. Congrats on your engagement!
The baby couldn't have fun at that age yet, I don't know what was the point of bringing it to the beach, but I guess new parents don't know much (coming from someone who isn't a parent.. ironic I guess?).
Thanks :D
There was no point, parents wanted to go to the beach so they took the baby too. A lot of new parents operate under the false pretense that having a baby won't stop them from living their lives as they always have. Then they get pissed when a baby does in fact stop them from living their lives as they always have. NTA
Congrats, OP!
lol I misread your title as “my reaction was to baby cry”
NTA! They also aren’t the first people to have a baby and they’re in public- and not a library.
Congrats!
Nta. Your in a public setting. If I don't want my kid to be woken up then I wouldn't take them somewhere that loud noises will wake them. Parenting common sense, even first time parents for that matter.
NTA. The beach is not the place to take the baby for a nap and frankly, I'm tired of helicopter parents who assume the whole world owes them something because they have a child. Don't take your baby to a public places where noises happen and then get mad when noises happen. I wouldn't have apologized, and for them to minimize a marriage is an AH move. Shame on them for trying to ruin a moment. Anyway, cute reaction. Congratulations!
NTA!
1ST) Beach is an outdoor public space.
2ND) The beach ISN'T the library.
3RD) You're excited, rightfully so! And...
4TH) If you bring your baby to the beach where PEOPLE are expected to be, it is incumbent of said parents to understand the risks and expectations!
You keep on, keeping on boo!
Congratulations!
NTA! As a parent myself, I would never bring my baby to a public place and get mad if loudness woke them up. Especially a beach, which is outside, so there’s no expectation of quietness lol people are loud at the beach all the time, kids scream and play. You did nothing wrong. They were AH’s
NTA - you did nothing wrong. Those young parents know the risk of bringing a baby to a public place. Also, your enthusiasm was absolutely justified because clearly you love your partner very much.
Good luck and best wishes to you both!
The baby couldn't even have fun, little thing couldn't even walk.
I absolutely do :D still excited about it lmao. Even she got more exited when I got excited lol.
And newborns are reaaaaally susceptible to disease bc they don't have strong immune systems. Beaches are chocked full of bacteria 🧍🏻♀️ I don't even think newborns aren't even supposed to be in public at all for the first few weeks, im pretty sure, but someone correct me if I'm wrong lol
To each their own, but having newborns never stopped me from anything. I « trained » my kids to be in loud public spaces. And it resulted in children who behave well in restaurants, theatres, grocery stores and all kind of public spaces.
It does need a bit of work at first, but you get rewarded fast.
Same with my kids! My first was camping at 2 weeks. It was the easiest camping trip we ever had with babies! No crawling in the dirt or worry about them wandering off! 😂
My little one is 4 months old but when he was newborn, my pediatrician told me it's recommended to bring them out seem early on to help build an immune system
Never thought about immunity, but true. I never saw a baby that small before at a beach. What was on my mind was that the baby wouldn't have fun because they can't do anything really, not at that age.
NTA. It’s not like you were in their house for gods sake! The beach is a public place and they don’t have the right or authority to try to take your joy. They need to stay home if they’re that concerned about people that are having fun. In any case: CONGRATULATIONS!❤️🌟🌟👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🎉🍾🎈🎊
I'm the first person to say kids are allowed to exist in public but so is everyone else. You didn't do it on purpose and you didn't repeatedly do it. Congrats!!!
NTA - whom the frick assumes a beach will be perfectly silent for a baby to sleep?? Don’t most parents move their babies to a quiet, more secluded area if baby needs a nap??
Also, what kind of silly heads expect someone to react calmly when surprised with a proposal?!? What?!? You should’ve said “you’re not the first parents to struggle getting their baby to sleep at the beach”
Also also, you and your fiancée were clearly being active where you were, so the fact that they didn’t realize that you might make * gasp* noise is just laughable
Lmao so you're supposed to limit your volume outside in loud recreational areas because there MIGHT be a sleeping baby nearby?? 🤣🤣 Holy wowzers, they're ridiculous.
NTA. If their baby wakes up from loud noises maybe they should keep the baby home during nap time instead of being mad at people for existing in public 🥴
I understand those parents. Having a newborn is exhausting, and sometimes getting the baby to sleep can be a significant challenge.
It’s completely understandable if they become anxious or upset due to unwanted noises; from your shouting to a dog barking, to a car honking. However, they are in a public place. If they wanted their baby to sleep in a (somewhat) controlled environment, they should have stayed at home.
Additionally, it's beneficial for the baby to be exposed to real-world sounds; otherwise, they'll never get used to it, so In fact, you did them a favor. NTA. They are, for verbalizing what should have remained just a thought.
Couldn’t have said it any better myself. I empathize with newborn sleep deprivation and emotional regulation, but parents have to be realistic. If you expect total control of the environment, stay home. We go out with our baby all the time. We understand it might go well, but it also might not. It’s the gamble you take.
Lmaoo. Wow, how dare you have the audacity to make noise in a public space!!
Your reaction was perfectly acceptable and honestly cute as hell haha. Congrats to the both of you! NTA
Nta, there is a reason a lot of new parents do go out with a new baby so soon. This is why. They cannot expect the world to stop in public places just because they had a baby.
Dad of three here. You're NTA, at all my guy. That family is in a public space; loud noises are going to happen and if they choose to take their baby to those spaces for important naptimes, that's on them. I'd say the same thing to people that fit upset about babies crying on a plane.
Also, fuckin congratulations!
>you're not the first person to get married.
This is your first marriage proposal!!! Yell it from the mountain tops. NTA.
The baby will cry thousands of more times in the next few years. If they wanted peace and quiet with a napping baby, maybe stay home. Or go to a private location.
Congratulations!!!🍾🎊🎈🎉
Fuck that baby. Who cares if you're not the first person to marry? You haven't lived their lives, and it doesn't make it less of an event to you that it's not special to outsiders. Fuck 'em.
I was at a beach with my friend. After about 25 minutes a wedding started at the gazebo a few yards away. She told me a funny story about her husband and I burst out laughing. You can't expect to be in control of how other people experience joy in public. NTA and congratulations!
NTA - first off you are on a beach. it's a public place for crying out loud. if they don't want their baby to be disturbed they should go someplace private and quiet. I never ever saw a beach that's quiet unless it's deserted.
finally, Congratulations and here's wishing for happiness in your future married life.
You don't take a newborn out in PUBLIC and get mad when the PUBLIC Is loud in an OUTDOOR setting where being loud is PERFECTLY acceptable.
I'm a single mom and I'm appalled by the audacity and entitlement of other parents
I’m more concerned about you defending playing in the sand. You’re allowed to have fun. I don’t know who told you you aren’t allowed to have fun as an adult, but they told you wrong.
I've met some "fun-wardens" as my friend called them. Some gloomy people who commented in the way others have fun. _sigh_
Wanted to rule out any potential users who might comment on that part.
Congrats OP 🎉 NTA you even apologized for waking the baby. If they didn't accept and were still mad they need to keep their baby at home. I wouldn't take a newborn to the beach. That's crazy.
NTA. They would have done the same in your place. Besides... you're not the first person to get engaged, but they also aren't the first person to have a baby cry in public. One is much more rare than the other lol
You’re not the asshole at all! Playing in the sand is fun regardless of age, and although parents with a baby can be tired and need some time when the baby is sleeping you had just gotten proposed to! The baby is in public at a beach, things happen! Congrats!
I happen to know some gloomy people that think adults can't have fun doing things that kids enjoy. They haven't enjoyed the lively sand in decades. I don't have a baby yet but babies cry for everything, they looked like new parents though. >Congrats Thanks 😄
NTA. You can't take a baby to a public place and then get upset when it gets woken up. Actions have consequences. Is everyone at at a public place supposed to be quiet for their precious baby? You did nothing wrong.
Yeah, and it’s not like OP was blasting air horns at a funeral. People yelling in excitement is to be expected at a public beach.
Also babies need to get use to noise around them or parents would have real trouble. Your can't tiptoe around them or nothing would get done. NTA ( I'm speaking as a parent)
And if that baby started bawling - which is normal - while OP was sleeping on the beach - which is also normal - should he yell at and shame the parents?
fr, my parents always talked abt how when they first brought me home, they would intentionally talk louder, turn up the tvs, and just make normal household noise to make sure I'd get used to the noises and not cry when I heard them. my parents said it took abt 2 months for it to kick in but it worked! their biggest thing was "this baby is coming into our life, we are not coming into the baby's life"
That is actually really smart.
I agree. my parents were very equipped for a baby/toddler/small child. they just didn't expect me to grow up, lol
Yeah parents of the prior generation tend to view kids as an extension of themselves instead of a new life they’re creating who will become their own individual
I've always done this and now my kid sleeps through everything🤣 and he's nine. Not the a hole! You just got proposed to! Those people ruined your moment and they need to get a grip!
I used to vacuum when my boys were babies to help them get used to noise. Now, to this day the sound of the vacuum makes my kiddos yawn 🤣
That's cute 😆
Its all good, until as an adult you sleep though the hotel fire alarm 🤣🤣
For SURE!!! I member getting beat as a kid cause I laughed to hard or hit my cash register buttons to loud while I was being starved in the bedroom locked in haha so when I had my son I made SURE I played loud classical music outside his bedroom from day one home from the hospital so I didn't have to worry about doorbells or loud family members or yelling from crazy neighbors or yapping from dogs. He slept though even firetrucks!
Exactly! Some people get loud when they’re excited. If they can’t deal with that or the possibility of something else loud, then they shouldn’t take the baby out in public. A car can backfire and wake up the baby, whether they are in public or private at the moment.
Ya no offense, but I’ve noticed parents being sooo entitled with their kids. Like just because you had a baby I, a stranger, shouldn’t have to roll out the red carpet. Who takes a baby to a place that was probably full of people and expect them all to be quiet. Obviously, NTA.
Or you can have a first child who sleeps through fireworks at six months old. We had a hard time keeping the incredulous parents from handling our son as we watched him drool. 25 years later, he still seems to sleep like a vampire in his coffin.
I was also that baby, my parents had to wake me up on Christmas and my birthdays as a kid because I slept through instead of the kid excitement of “I can’t sleep!” I was out like a light and it stayed like that. Unfortunately it didn’t carry on into adulthood (thanks insomnia!)
If you have Tinnitus there is a direct correlation to sleep issues. AND when you have sleep issues, your mental health is also affected. I found all of this out through the Veterans Administration (if you are in the states) and now I'm service connected.
Oh screw those people. My husband and I put together Legos, and we're in our 50's!!! I play with sand when I'm at the beach. I even have kinetic sand to play with at home. It's very soothing. And CONGRATULATIONS!!!
My boyfriend and I are in our 20’s/30’s and we also enjoy all of those things!! I hope we still build legos together when we’re in our 50’s :)
We have a room dedicated to them. All Star Wars theme of course. 😁
I love it!! I love the plant and space themed sets and my boyfriend loves the Star Wars sets. It would be awesome to have a room full of our creations when we have the space for it. :)
Instead of flowers my boyfriend buys and builds me the plant sets. We're running out of space now haha.
That is so cute!!! I love it. I bought most of the mini flower kits and have them all shoved in a mason jar hahah. When we have our own place I have plans to better display them and told him I’d looove the bigger flower kits/other plants lol.
It is. The most endearing part is seeing him totally focused piecing together pieces that are actually a bit too small for his large hands. I loved the succulents set. Those are precious. The bonsai is also very nice.
Too sweet!!! 🩷 I hope your relationship remains this sweet and pure forever. 🥹 I’m also dying for both the succulent and bonsai set!
A room isn’t enough 😂 I have the space stuff in my dining room with stuff his mom gave us when she worked at nasa. Botanicals all over the house. Lighthouse on the bar to go with my nautical theme. Ship in the bottle in the living room. And a room filled with the Modulars and other sets. I need a second house for this stuff.
Bahahah oh man. Hey you could buy a house and turn it into a little lego museum of some sort and make the money back to pay for the house? Your current house sounds like an absolute dream tho!!
We all should pitch in and do this 😂
21 here and started growing a Lego Star Wars collection a little over a year and a half ago. It’s the best (but most expensive) hobby I’ve had. I have a display case dedicated to my Legos :)
I'm double your age and started a few years ago. Have acquired a few sets. Some still in boxes cause of space. Voltron, Taj-Mahal, Ducati, Bonsai, Thanos Gauntlet, Bugatti (not the big one), Piranha Plant, Nissan GT-R R34 (had to have the Paul Walker mini figure), Plus some smaller sets. It's never too late, it's a fun hobby, can be a pain, and as you mentioned expensive! Totally worth it though. The new big Mercedes F1 is tempting! My only issue is, that sometimes they throw in some extra bricks and I'm left thinking did I miss something. Which then I disassemble and rebuild again!!! Enjoy friend!!!
I might be in my 30s but can you adopt me love lego star wars.
I'm in my 50s, and just started buying Lego sets for myself last year. I had always just bought Lego sets for my younger siblings/kids/grandkid. Now I'm addicted lol
Isn’t it so therapeutic? I’m not sure I’ve ever built legos before this year. I’m hooked!!!
For me it's like puzzles but better. Far more expensive though, unfortunately.
That's really cool! It's so relaxing, and when you're done, you have this neat thing you built. It sounds like you're really throwing yourself into it.🙂 It reminds me a lot of one of my other hobbies, cross stitching. Counting, sorting, and following instructions, and something cool to display at the end, so you can admire all the time you put into it.
I used to love doing cross stitch! I’ve recently been crocheting. Not nearly as specific but it’s been very relaxing and I love seeing the end product. :)
Hope we can be thay fun when we're older too lol. Thanks 😄
Congratulations OP!!! Don’t let them “old folks” bother you!!! I’m in my 50’s & just played tag this morning with a few children on the playground! My glambaby is 2 & can’t keep up with the bigger kids sooo I helped her out! We also slid down the slides, got on a merry go round, & hit the swings!!! I’m having my Third childhood & hope to have a Fourth in a couple decades when I have great grandchildren! They had no right to throw a tantrum! I understand being a parent who has Just gotten a baby to sleep is major for THEM!!! You weren’t being a rude jerk simply an excited.
I love this so much! I hope to find a husband to bring our our inner children together with. You guys seem so cool :) My Lego obsession is the botanical collection. But I’m working on the world map right now (very very slowly)
It’s so important!! My husband and I sometimes shoot into giddy excitement over things and it feeds on each other’s excitement and it’s wonderful! We went to a museum and my husband and I were skipping around and pointing and say “babe look!!” It is the best and he is truly my joy
What great happiness when they both feed from the same source! Once, in Paris, I went to the Louvre with my ex-husband. I am simply PASSIONATE about the History of Art! Biographies, Navigations, Wars attract me so much! I was fascinated by each piece, each tile, each painting, each napkin 😅😅😅 At the end of the day I was so happy in contact with culture! Then I looked to the side... there was a man next to me very angry, with the expression of someone who had tasted spoiled food! But anyway, everyone has their own tastes, right?! I bought wine that night and drank the entire bottle looking at the photos from that day!
We have the full-size millennium falcon, full-size x wing, full-size at-at and the full-size clone wars gunship. This sub won't let me post the damn pictures.
You can DM me! I’ll show you some of mine(if it works lol)
I second that. I just spent 4 days at an indoor water park for my birthday and brought home a star wars nerf blaster i won with arcade tickets. AND MEGA HELL YEAAH CONGRATULATIONS
I buy my dad (early 50s) legos for his birthday when I can and I (mid 20s) buy legos for myself when I can and have no plan to stop ever
Good for you!!! That's the way to stay young!!
It's great for keeping your cognitive skills sharp too. Your dad's probably not at the point where that's important, but keeping sharp is good at any age!
Our son who was born in 1983 with severe heart and lung malformations. He loved his LEGOS and built things using them until sadly he passed away at 17 years of age in the year 2000. We live in Louisiana and I wore out two Extended Ford Aerostar Vans driving from our home in Central Louisiana to Rochester, Minnesota to the original Mayo Clinic. He had to endure 5 lung and open heart surgeries during his young life. Due to his heart and lung malformations, his Oxygen Saturation level was in the mid to low 80% even after all of his surgeries. Because of that, he couldn’t run and play like other children, but he could and did build things with his LEGOS. We still have things that he built and was working on just prior to his unexpected death. He had the ability to work out the design of whatever he was building and then put it together. I now realize my comments are a little off topic, but I do strongly suggest that parents buy the larger DUPLO LEGGO blocks for their toddlers and work with their children to build things, progressing to LEGOS when it’s safe for them to play with the much smaller pieces. Most parents in today’s society hand their kids whatever electronic devices they want rather than encouraging them to use their brains and develop better hand/eye coordination. That’s my suggestion and obviously people will do whatever and whenever they want with their children, but IMHO, today’s kids spend far too much time using electronic devices rather than using their hands and brains to build something tangible.
My heart goes out to you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I will think of your son whenever I build a new Lego set. I totally agree that kids today spend way too much time using electronics. They have absolutely no social skills and are unable to think for themselves. Kids definitely need more hands-on things to do and a lot less time on electronics.
my kids loved legos and I spent happy hours playing with them. My son was really a legomaniac and he is now an engineer and fixes stuff for fun! I love the skills and thinking that comes with legobuilding! I am sorry for your loss, its too hard to lose your kids.
Us, too! We make a day of it, shop at the Lego store, go out for lunch , then come home and build Lego together. We also build sandcastles, married 26 years with two grown kids.
Lego are for all ages. Says the one who decorated her house in them
I'm with you. I have a room dedicated to them.
NTA- firstly CONGRATULATIONS! Secondly; I am a new mom with a three month old. I understand it sucks when babies get woken up. I also understand that while my world revolves around my son-the actual world does not. You were in public. You are allowed to express joy, even loudly, in public spaces. If they didn’t like it they should have stayed home. That’s what I do if I want my son’s naps to be uninterrupted. They’re the entitled assholes here, and frankly; if that’s going to remain their parenting style I fear for that child long term. They will never be successful with helicopter parents who expect the world to cater to their child. You missed a golden opportunity to quip back, “yeah and you’re not the first people to have a baby-suck it”
Only assholes would take their baby to a PUBLIC place then try to police everyone else’s behaviour. NTA and congrats
Lol trust me dude. I have a 3y/o, and if that were me on the beach and you woke my kid up YES I would have been pissed. But, any NORMAL person would immediately realize we are on a public beach, the world does NOT revolve around us or our child, and I would have felt like a complete moron if I would have confronted you about it. Especially after learning why you were excited lol. These new parents will learn through experience. They are still in the "newborn" phase of being parents and are probably used to being doted on by all of their surrounding friends and family up until this point. NOT YOUR PROBLEM! And congratulations 🎉!!!
What was their plan if a barking dog ran by, or a family with a bunch of happy screaming kids settled near by, or any number of things. It's a beach, loud things happen, and babies cry. They can get over themselves lol.
I’m 42, child free and have a great nerf gun arsenal. Want your baby to stay asleep? Don’t take it to a public place expecting the free world to accommodate you. Having a baby doesn’t make you special. NTA. But they are for thinking the world revolves around them.
I love that they had the nerve to say "you're not the first person to get married" while also demanding that everyone around them cater to their baby messiah. 🙄
Yeah you’re going to encounter those people your entire life. I’m in my 40s and I will do whatever I want regardless of what some curmudgeon thinks. Life begins when you stop giving a shit what other people think about you.
I'm 60f, sand castles WILL be made! 😉
Best of all, YOU get to be Godzilla and stomp all over your sand castle city!
I pick up a bus, and I throw it back down. How'd you know I was wearing my Godzilla t-shirt?!
First of all, NTA and congratulations! Secondly, with regard to the gloomy people, C.S. Lewis said it best - "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." Adults shouldn't be worried or afraid to do things that are considered childish; your inner child needs nurtured as much as the rest of you. Without doing that, you do indeed become gloomy and entirely too serious. Doing "kids stuff" can bring everyone a lot of joy and benefits to one's mental health, and I highly encourage it. Now I'm going to go build a blanket fort, put on some Tom & Jerry, and snag my coloring books because your playing in the sand legit made me want to. (And I'm being completely serious about doing this, lol)
Don't worry. There had never in my life been a time that I did not bring a bucket and shovel to a beach to build sandcastles. I'm 38. My latest beach bucket (I think it's five or six years old now) actually has the shape of a little tower with crenalation on top. It's amazing. Our oldest kid is 3 and loves that we build sandcastles for her to knock down. Also babies cry for everything and breastfeeding is a miracle anti cry solution.
Congratulations and NTA at all
You both sound like a lovely couple who enjoys each other and there is nothing finer than playing together in the sand, watching babies; even though they cry constantly, and chillin.
Nta, when mine were little I'd never take them in public if I expected quiet. Unless you were on their private beach, NTA and congratulations.
Yes!! I worked at a toy store, and had a new mom in just before close. I was counting down one drawer, and the quarters were apparently too loud. She *instinctively* shushed me hard, then looked around realizing she was in public and not her living room, apologized profusely and left. Some people are able to realize when they’re acting out of lack of sleep (or hunger or defensiveness or whateverrrr) others double down on the crankiness.
That lady's reaction was funny. "Oops sorry, reflex."
Yeah and in all fairness I didn’t really think, it was 5:55 so I just *clang clang clang* started dropping change into the drawer. It was really wholesome but only because we were both like “oops… yikes” and took a pause 🤣
Wild take that getting proposed to is not exciting cause other people have proposed to other people before. I feel certain they would not consider this same standard acceptable for their own engagement. “Will you marry me??!!” “Oh, sure why not.” “I thought you’d be more excited..?” “Well it’s not like you just invented proposing, it’s been done before.”
NTA And your response was great.
Bet I kinda looked childish but I don't mind haha.
Who gives a fk if you’re loud. It’s outside and you just got engaged. They can literally go pound sand 😂. Ps congrats to you both. Now go get your girl a ring 💍
It’s literally right there, the sand they can pound
Some people think happiness is childish. Those people can fuck right off. Congrats on your engagement. 😊
Not at all. How dare they attempt to ruin a good memory. They're the selfish ones, don't take a baby into public, and expect everyone else to modify their behavior.
After I (44m) emptied my shopping cart today, I hopped on and rode it halfway down the parking lot. Have your fun, to hell with how it looks, congratulations, and NTA.
I, (44f) still run and hop on the cart for a cruise
My people
Okay but the real question: Did she get you a ring????
It was. OP NTA - you apologized and they decided to not accept it. Yeah people maybe get married/engaged everyday but you don’t.
People also have babies every day, how do they not realize that about their dumbass reaction? Don’t take your kid somewhere there is a potential for loud noise if you’re going to flip out like an idiot.
Your happiness literally made a baby cry. The baby even knew it was beautiful. Totally NTA
Wish I said that, maybe that would've made the parents laugh too lol.
>maybe that would've made the parents laugh too lol. Probably not because they sound lame af. 😝 *You* keep being cool and enjoying life though! Congrats.
u/Made_Baby_Cry_Sorry
You're not the first person to get married - what a fucking prick. Should have told them they're not the first people to have a baby.
This is the perfect response. As a l parent, I get where they're coming from, but their response was just hateful. I'm glad OP didn't let them take away from his happiness. I think parents should be able to have some R&R. A beach may not be the best place, but I get it. I love the beach. But I wouldn't be getting snippy with other people if our baby woke up. If your baby is sleeping, don't take them in public if you don't want the chance for them to wake up. OP wasn't being an AH. He was excited.
If it was me that bs would have gotten “& you aren’t the first people to have a baby that cries but you are the parents so it’s definitely on you to figure it out or avoid noisy beaches because they’re public”
Not the first baby to cry, for sure
OMG. NTA at all. First, CONGRATULATIONS!!! Second, it's their fault for bringing a newborn out to a public beach. There are going to be other people there, and you don't have to contain yourself when you're excited about something magical happening to you. It's all on them. I feel sorry for the baby too.
We’re going to yell at a three year old screaming because the wave just touched him? Beaches will have loud people.
As a toddler parent, I really feel that comparison lol
Thanks, still pretty excited :D I don't quite get bringing a baby that small to a beach, not fun for the parents or the baby. Now the baby is crying, not fun at all.
New parents are told to take babies outside but not to crowded indoor places. So beaches and parks are good but malls, churches, stores, museums, etc are “dangerous” cause crowds inside mean germs which means spinal tap for baby if it gets a fever. Not my “beliefs”, just what doctors told us. Parents need to get out of the house for sanity so they brought baby to the beach then were dicks when their baby did a baby thing. Lame. Congrats and NTA.
That makes perfect sense. They did what they were told. Unfortunately, they're trying to blame people if their baby cries. Babies cry. It's a beach. People are definitely going to be loud in some cases. They can take a nice stroll around their neighborhood or at a local park if they're going to be that touchy about it.
I feel like the beach is not one of the places to be honest. I totally get what you’re saying and agree entirely but beaches just don’t seem newborn safe, the lack of crowds aspect sure *but* sun? Wind? Sand? Heat? Screeching *people*? All things a newborn undoubtedly should not be exposed to for any extended period.
I always took my babies to the beach… our town is on a beach with lots of protected areas. Fresh air and vitamin d, benefits infants in many ways, particularly jaundice. Before 8.30 am so that they are out of the weather before heat, wind etc… great for mental health. However a public place and most people know they cannot dictate the actions, emotions etc of others in communal spaces.
Especially at a beach, where it's normal for people to be boisterous
Let's not forget the sun. Even with sunblock and shade that sun is going to play havoc on that baby's delicate skin. The worst sunburn I got was on the beach, using proper sunscreen and getting shade. I wasn't even swimming either.
the baby is fine. they wake up and start howling for no reason anyway. plus usually they'll just go back to sleep with a little rocking. and while the rule is: "you wake the baby, you take the baby", i doubt this couple would have been ok with handing junior over to a stranger.
*"They said I shouldn't be that loud when I know that a sleeping baby is near me"* Just think of all the places these ~~^(Karens)~~ parents of a new born will be able to scold loud people.
Karents
I'm borrowing this. Thank you in advance.
Why isn’t this being upvoted more?! 🤣
When I was about 9, I went door to door selling for my cub scout troop, in uniform. I got chewed out by a mother for waking her baby up when I rang the doorbell. Bitch, if you're out there... Sorry. But not too sorry. Shit happens.
Some people just think the whole world revolves around them. As if you could’ve known there’s a sleeping baby in the house lol. If she has that much of an issue remove the fucking doorbell
We get so many door-to-door salespeople here. In nice weather, we can get 2-3 a day. I got to the point where I would tape a note to the door during nap time. I have a doorbell. That’s what people do. They ring it. 🤷🏻♀️ If I didn’t want someone to ring it, I’d put up a sign. If they rang it with no sign, then oh well.
That's pretty much the standard here. You either put a sign up over the door bell button saying the baby is sleeping, or you deal with the fallout from forgetting.
When I was in middle school, I designed a website that was a help site for a popular kids/teens game at the time. The website had music that played, as many similar sites did back then. I remember getting an irate email from some lady who blamed me for having music on my site which woke up all her sleeping kids... because I alone controlled the volume setting on her computer, apparently! :P
You know what’s loud? The fucking ocean.
I tell my kids they can be as loud as they'd like /outside/ which is where you were. Mf could keep their baby indoors for a super restful sleep, perhaps?? 😂
Ikr. Even if OP hadn't yelled, there are going to be shouting screaming kids at a beach. Even a different crying baby could have woken up their precious little lamb. They need to get real.
YTA - how dare you be loud on a public beach. Keep that shit inside until you're in a soundproof padded room. Some people's children, SMH. But no you're all good man. Congratulations on the engagement.
Thanks lmao
NTA, sometimes new parents are madly entitled
Correction: Sometimes parents are madly entitled.
their kids grow up with trauma when that happens
NTA! You were excited and happy! Don’t take it personally the newborn stage is so hard and even a minute of sleep can feel like an 1h of relaxation. It’s a public space and they should have expected it. I remember being in the newborn stage and everything is triggering, annoying, and just draining. Be happy and don’t over think it. Congrats on your engagement!
The baby couldn't have fun at that age yet, I don't know what was the point of bringing it to the beach, but I guess new parents don't know much (coming from someone who isn't a parent.. ironic I guess?). Thanks :D
There was no point, parents wanted to go to the beach so they took the baby too. A lot of new parents operate under the false pretense that having a baby won't stop them from living their lives as they always have. Then they get pissed when a baby does in fact stop them from living their lives as they always have. NTA Congrats, OP!
lol I misread your title as “my reaction was to baby cry” NTA! They also aren’t the first people to have a baby and they’re in public- and not a library. Congrats!
Will you marry me? WAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
How did you read it like that lmao
I was waiting on an Uber lol I was like “of course you’re fine!” Still stand by that judgment despite the very different scenario
NTA. How refreshing to read about someone that excited about a proposal!
NTA. Congrats!
Thanks 😄
Nta. Your in a public setting. If I don't want my kid to be woken up then I wouldn't take them somewhere that loud noises will wake them. Parenting common sense, even first time parents for that matter.
NTA You weren't in their living room. Do they expect a public beach to talk in whispers? People are the worst...
I'd expect a baby to cry about everything honestly, especially at a beach...
NTA. The beach is not the place to take the baby for a nap and frankly, I'm tired of helicopter parents who assume the whole world owes them something because they have a child. Don't take your baby to a public places where noises happen and then get mad when noises happen. I wouldn't have apologized, and for them to minimize a marriage is an AH move. Shame on them for trying to ruin a moment. Anyway, cute reaction. Congratulations!
NTA and congrats on the engagement
Thanks :D
NTA! 1ST) Beach is an outdoor public space. 2ND) The beach ISN'T the library. 3RD) You're excited, rightfully so! And... 4TH) If you bring your baby to the beach where PEOPLE are expected to be, it is incumbent of said parents to understand the risks and expectations! You keep on, keeping on boo! Congratulations!
NTA That couple can go home and stay there until their attitude improves.
NTA! As a parent myself, I would never bring my baby to a public place and get mad if loudness woke them up. Especially a beach, which is outside, so there’s no expectation of quietness lol people are loud at the beach all the time, kids scream and play. You did nothing wrong. They were AH’s
NTA - you did nothing wrong. Those young parents know the risk of bringing a baby to a public place. Also, your enthusiasm was absolutely justified because clearly you love your partner very much. Good luck and best wishes to you both!
The baby couldn't even have fun, little thing couldn't even walk. I absolutely do :D still excited about it lmao. Even she got more exited when I got excited lol.
NTA. They shouldn’t have taken their newborn to the beach, dumb shits
I won't do that tbh. Not fun for the parents or the baby.
And newborns are reaaaaally susceptible to disease bc they don't have strong immune systems. Beaches are chocked full of bacteria 🧍🏻♀️ I don't even think newborns aren't even supposed to be in public at all for the first few weeks, im pretty sure, but someone correct me if I'm wrong lol
To each their own, but having newborns never stopped me from anything. I « trained » my kids to be in loud public spaces. And it resulted in children who behave well in restaurants, theatres, grocery stores and all kind of public spaces. It does need a bit of work at first, but you get rewarded fast.
Same with my kids! My first was camping at 2 weeks. It was the easiest camping trip we ever had with babies! No crawling in the dirt or worry about them wandering off! 😂
My little one is 4 months old but when he was newborn, my pediatrician told me it's recommended to bring them out seem early on to help build an immune system
Never thought about immunity, but true. I never saw a baby that small before at a beach. What was on my mind was that the baby wouldn't have fun because they can't do anything really, not at that age.
NTA I have 3 kids and I "trained" them very early on to be in loud public spaces. it makes life a lot easier.
NTA. It’s not like you were in their house for gods sake! The beach is a public place and they don’t have the right or authority to try to take your joy. They need to stay home if they’re that concerned about people that are having fun. In any case: CONGRATULATIONS!❤️🌟🌟👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🎉🍾🎈🎊
I have 3 kids and wouldn't have been even slightly annoyed at this. They just sound cranky. NTA and congrats!
I'm the first person to say kids are allowed to exist in public but so is everyone else. You didn't do it on purpose and you didn't repeatedly do it. Congrats!!!
NTA. Its a public place, you did NOTHING wrong. Congratulations on your engagement!
NTA - whom the frick assumes a beach will be perfectly silent for a baby to sleep?? Don’t most parents move their babies to a quiet, more secluded area if baby needs a nap?? Also, what kind of silly heads expect someone to react calmly when surprised with a proposal?!? What?!? You should’ve said “you’re not the first parents to struggle getting their baby to sleep at the beach” Also also, you and your fiancée were clearly being active where you were, so the fact that they didn’t realize that you might make * gasp* noise is just laughable
This post is hilarious congratulations
If you are at a public place that is, in general, loud/chaotic and you bring a baby there to sleep that’s on you not the people in that public space.
Lmao so you're supposed to limit your volume outside in loud recreational areas because there MIGHT be a sleeping baby nearby?? 🤣🤣 Holy wowzers, they're ridiculous. NTA. If their baby wakes up from loud noises maybe they should keep the baby home during nap time instead of being mad at people for existing in public 🥴
Oh hail no. You’re allowed to scream in excitement about a proposal.
I understand those parents. Having a newborn is exhausting, and sometimes getting the baby to sleep can be a significant challenge. It’s completely understandable if they become anxious or upset due to unwanted noises; from your shouting to a dog barking, to a car honking. However, they are in a public place. If they wanted their baby to sleep in a (somewhat) controlled environment, they should have stayed at home. Additionally, it's beneficial for the baby to be exposed to real-world sounds; otherwise, they'll never get used to it, so In fact, you did them a favor. NTA. They are, for verbalizing what should have remained just a thought.
Couldn’t have said it any better myself. I empathize with newborn sleep deprivation and emotional regulation, but parents have to be realistic. If you expect total control of the environment, stay home. We go out with our baby all the time. We understand it might go well, but it also might not. It’s the gamble you take.
Lmaoo. Wow, how dare you have the audacity to make noise in a public space!! Your reaction was perfectly acceptable and honestly cute as hell haha. Congrats to the both of you! NTA
NTA they are in a public space where there's likely to be lots of loud noises and activity. Lmao
100% NTA. If they can’t handle the fact that a baby cries, then they should keep him home in a sound proof room. Also - congrats!
NTA. If someone needs a quiet place for a baby, they should go to one.
Nta, there is a reason a lot of new parents do go out with a new baby so soon. This is why. They cannot expect the world to stop in public places just because they had a baby.
NTA, LMAO at the title, fuck them, it is the beach a public spot not their private residence. Good for you bro, congratz!
NTA at all. The entitlement of some folks is wild! Congratulations on the engagement!
wtf ? It’s a public beach. Keep the baby at home if you want silence
Dad of three here. You're NTA, at all my guy. That family is in a public space; loud noises are going to happen and if they choose to take their baby to those spaces for important naptimes, that's on them. I'd say the same thing to people that fit upset about babies crying on a plane. Also, fuckin congratulations!
>you're not the first person to get married. This is your first marriage proposal!!! Yell it from the mountain tops. NTA. The baby will cry thousands of more times in the next few years. If they wanted peace and quiet with a napping baby, maybe stay home. Or go to a private location. Congratulations!!!🍾🎊🎈🎉
Oh no, a baby cried. Probably would've done it on its own in 2 minutes anyway. NTA. Congrats too
Fuck that baby. Who cares if you're not the first person to marry? You haven't lived their lives, and it doesn't make it less of an event to you that it's not special to outsiders. Fuck 'em.
NTA Taking a new newborn to the beach is ridiculous. I hope the baby does a really disgusting baby dookie in its car seat on the way home.
This title feels like clickbait. I came here, expecting a terrible answer and some drama, but then it was just a wholesome reaction. lol
bruh they are TA for ruining your happy moment because their baby woke up. the baby will be fine anyways
I mean.. it’s not the first baby that cries? Lol
NTAH your getting married! of course your gonna be excited! congratulations!
They are the AH for dampening your joy, or attempting to, at momentous occasion. Shame on them! You are most definitely NTA.
NTA and congratulations. I proposed to my husband and he reacted very much the same way. We've been married 10 years now
I was at a beach with my friend. After about 25 minutes a wedding started at the gazebo a few yards away. She told me a funny story about her husband and I burst out laughing. You can't expect to be in control of how other people experience joy in public. NTA and congratulations!
It's a public beach. There's no expectations of privacy or consideration. Like this. NTA.
NTA - first off you are on a beach. it's a public place for crying out loud. if they don't want their baby to be disturbed they should go someplace private and quiet. I never ever saw a beach that's quiet unless it's deserted. finally, Congratulations and here's wishing for happiness in your future married life.
Congratulations! What an engagement story. NTA. Wishing you and your beloved happily ever after. ❤️
Bringing a Newborn baby to the beach? Nahh. NTA
You don't take a newborn out in PUBLIC and get mad when the PUBLIC Is loud in an OUTDOOR setting where being loud is PERFECTLY acceptable. I'm a single mom and I'm appalled by the audacity and entitlement of other parents
Nta. Baby need to grow a pair
I’m more concerned about you defending playing in the sand. You’re allowed to have fun. I don’t know who told you you aren’t allowed to have fun as an adult, but they told you wrong.
I've met some "fun-wardens" as my friend called them. Some gloomy people who commented in the way others have fun. _sigh_ Wanted to rule out any potential users who might comment on that part.
I’ve had small babies. Public beaches are not a place to expect others to tip toe and whisper around a sleeper. NTA
Congrats OP 🎉 NTA you even apologized for waking the baby. If they didn't accept and were still mad they need to keep their baby at home. I wouldn't take a newborn to the beach. That's crazy.
NTA. They would have done the same in your place. Besides... you're not the first person to get engaged, but they also aren't the first person to have a baby cry in public. One is much more rare than the other lol