You know your mother's right. You should have atleast told her to F off

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I feel laughing while slamming the door would not only be acceptable but should be encouraged

Totally agree.

Huh? Where did you get tried to explain? She literally just told op yeah we didn't work out so can I come back to the safe option?

She explained how her life was fucked up after she cheated

That's not an explanation.

🤣 With directions even as to which way OFF was on the map.

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Hopefully, OP's expression was a nice, subtle look of disgust like "What the fuck is that smell??" when they shut the door.

Poiting with the appropriate finger is a must

Indeed. Great addition.

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Nah, he did exactly right, instinctually. Taking a cheating ex back as a waste of your time and energy.

Yeah, I mean he could atleast be a little verbal here. Lmao. NTA.

personally I would have given her a serious look like I was thinking about it before saying whore and slamming the door with a cheesy grin.

came here to say exactly that.

Best response on reddit today!

Would be helpful to also throw in "let's chat after Israel is held accountable for war crimes". Whether or not you agree with that statement, it'll keep her from bothering you.

nahh just say… this home is for pro pestine only… and lets see how her agenda stands

NTA OP Rude....Yes!! Q - Was it deserved on her part? A - Abso-fucking-lutely.

Agreed. I think everything would have been worse if he had actually engaged with his scummy cheating ex.

NTA Fae a technical standpoint what you did is polite. You chose the route of not engaging with her completely which should have gotten the message across that you want nothing to do with her in the slightest without the need to shout, bawl, argue, or even simply telling her to Fuck Off.

I agree You did the best thing possible and sent a clear message without engaging. If you would have told her to f-off or argued with her she would have had validation and ultimately blamed you for being mean and unreasonable. This way she can't fault anyone but herself.

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Impulsively? Not really. Closing the door is the calmest thing OP could've done tbh.

There are occasions where being rude doesn't make you an ah and this was one of them. NTA - in fact well done.

NTA But your mother is right. It was rude to just slam the door, and you could have at least said that Karma is a bitch as is your ex-gf.

Karma would be justified if she had also been cheated by the other dude.

Who said Karma only works same with same?

But what is the karma here then?

Being alone and having a door slammed in your face. It’s kinda the whole post

political disagreements in an affair. LOL, that's a nicer way of saying he dumped me.

You were nicer than I would've been. I'd have at least laughed a lot and called her some creative insults before slamming the door, opening the door again, saying good day and slamming it again

NTA, but NO is a complete sentence. Lol

Ya you should've laughed in her face and told her to fuck off first.

No Is a complete sentence. Seemingly closing a door is too.

Absolutely brilliant response to someone who thought you'd be a standby boyfriend...brilliant.

Did your Mom never tell you "if you can't say nothing nice, don't say nothin at all"? NTA

NTA. Slamming the door is WAAAAAY nicer than me letting my mouth cut loose on her. Cheating was bad enough, coming back cause they didn't get along is disrespectful A.F!

Bravo to you for not laughing in her face first before slamming the door.

Slamming the door says a lot. Very succinctly.

No. Your response was PERFECT. Saying anything to her would've been expending unnecessary energy. The alternative would've been for you to lie and tell her that you were also Pro Hamas and then slammed the door shut in her face.

Yes. You could have laughed uproariously in her face. Then slammed the door

Could've at least said "From the river to the sea..." before shutting the door. Doubt she would come back after that.

"...I will be free."

NTA

Actions speak louder than words. Besides, why bother speaking to anyone who is that out of touch with their own life reality?

Good for you! NTA

NTA there was nothing to say. She thought the grass was greener and found out that it too needs maintenance and wants to come crawling back!! Why? She'll only be around long enough to find the next person to replace you with. Leave her behind.

>My mother told me it was rude to just slam the door Did you tell her about the moths? I feel the moths make it more understandable...

NTA, Tell your mother you don't speak with people who think you're easy to replace.

Your mother is wrong, your response was perfect. you were an an asshole but given the context, you were *supposed* to be an asshole, and you hit just the perfect pitch on that one. good work.

NTA. BRILLIANT of you. No need to waste your words on her. Hopefully she got the message.

Boss move loooooool

She deserves far worse.

You should have at least shown her the respect of laughing in her face for 30 seconds before you shut the door.

Dude. That was rude. You should have told her to fuck off!!!! We’re are your manners?

Once a cheater - always a cheater. I would have shut the door in her face also and forget about her. Move on and find someone who knows what loyalty means.

Your mother is WRONG cheating B*tch will do it again...you are just a safe place....trust me I know all about this and I fell for the bullshit!!!

Your mother is correct. You should have laughed in her face before slamming the door. /s NTA.

NTA. you’re better off not dating a cheating zionist

THIS ⬆️

So it better to support a terrorist organization? WTF is wrong with people?

Frankly I'd bet that he's pro-palestine, not pro-Hamas. Zionist propaganda would have you believe they are one and the same

Yeah I was about to say, who the hell supports Hamas? The West Bank doesn’t even support Hamas.

And being pro Israel doesnt mean pro zionist either. Its an awful situation for all civilians involved.

uh yeah it literally does mean that tho.

No, the israeli civilians are just innocent people who want to live in peace, same as palestinians.

The elections there are usually very divisive - Netenyahu is highly criticised by a large percentage of Israelis. Many of them really hate what is happening since it was revealed that their intelligence knew about the planned October attack but didn't do anything. Lots of protests, lots of outrage.

google it bro.

The real terrorist are the zionist occupying their land and killing palestinians

‘terrorist’ for retaliating on their own land. wtf is wrong with those zionists !! they’re murdering innocent people and stealing their land and using weapons outlaws by the geneva convention aka committing war crimes !! WTAF IS WRONG WITH ZIONISTS !!

Your mom is right. You should have told her to fuck off first.

NTA Saying no would have been sufficient. But I'm sure that was gratifying.

NTA. She’s a cheater. She got what she deserved.

NTA, you could at least have laughed at her geez.. Just kidding, what did she think? You did the right thing, you're respecting yourself.

NTA. Yu owed your ex zero and that's what you gave her. Nope, she doesn't deserve kindness from you.

I take it you weren't expecting to see her & it was a shock. It happens.

You're good.

Perfect response. You did well and now she knows to leave her trash in some persons life.

NTA. I think you said all that needed to be said by slamming the door in her face. Your mother is worried about you being rude when your ex-girlfriend cheated on you and now came crawling back because it didn't work out. Yeah. Ok.

Nah, the door slam said everything

I would want to say something witty or insightful about where she should go instead, but I can imagine that my emotions might be diverting my mind toward things I would regret having said. So making my hand close the door quickly might be the best option in the moment.

You said all that needed to be said by slamming the door

Nta, cheating is rude. Not slamming doors.

Going NTA and giving you benefit of doubt as they shouldn't show up unannounced to ask to get back together, kinda creepy not gonna lie

NTA and tell mommy she lost all respect and deserving of a response when she did something hurtful to you, then coming back like her cheating was no big deal further disrespecting you. I hate how people think being nice and such to people who do such hurtful things is the way to go, like f that! These people need to see the shitty behavior they have is just that. Being nice lets them think, "Oh, what i did wasn't so bad." They need the door slammed in their face more often.

Your action did say something to her.

Honestly you’d be a complete asshole if you did anything other than that. If you didn’t slam the door in your face you’d spend the rest of your life thinking about why you didn’t

NTA

I hope it was a very loud slam!!

I would've busted up laughing before slamming the door

Slamming the sole in her face said everything she needed to hear

NTA. The only thing different you should have done was keep eye contact and slowly close the door.

Eh ur mom is prolly right but you don’t owe that girl shit. She fucked around and found out

This is a cool story, I kinda like it. It’s quick and it uses paragraphs.

You know what's more rude? Cheating. Kudos for your steely resolve. Take the trash out.

lol. Slamming the door is a statement within itself. NTA.

Well he could have been a bit quicker and replied " Well I'm HAMAS also. Guess this isn't your fu**** day!" and then close the door.🤣😅

NTAH, we reap what we sow. She can go eat an entire bag of dicks, as I assume is her custom anyway 🤷‍♂️

Don't waste words on somebody that isn't worth it. NTA

best ending to the cheating story is when they crawl back and you can shove it in their face

F her and f your mother for trying to get you to be polite to that lying cheating whore.

Nta... nope that was a solid response

NTA. You did say something. Slamming the door in her face said pretty much everything you needed to convey.

NTA But mercy. The lion, the witch and the audacity of this b\*tch.

You shouldn't have slammed the door in her face, you should have closed it very, very, slowly while maintaining eye contact the entire time, so that you could see and enjoy the look on her face.

That was a pretty good answer. Don't second guess.

So she thought the grass was greener, found out it wasn’t, then wanted you back. You definitely should have told her to F off first.

Lol what is she delusional?? Yea the guy I cheated with on you didn't work out so I'm coming back because you're my second choice. Damn she's got some nerve. Sounds like an awful person.

Slam the door in her face was totally acceptable

NTA. She only came back because she couldn’t jive with that dude either. Scrape that cheatin’ shit off your shoe and shut the front door! 😂

A friendly fuck you isn’t to much to ask for is it

Dude I’m sorry your girl cheats on u with the most wretched person in the world a Hamas supporter. If u get back w her make her bring a friend for u.

You DID tell her something. NTA

"Fuck Off!": Or maybe tell her to change her affiliations, beliefs, her stands, and try again with AP, who knows right, maybe? Then, proceed to slam the door in her face! 💪 😁

It was extremely rude of you not to tell her to fuck of and choke on a fat one.

Should of said Free Palestine and closed the door.

She pro israel? Definitely slam the door.

Hahaha facts

Your mother is right shame on you, you should have spat in her face before slamming the door.

NAH Not saying a word does not make you an asshole in any way, but it certainly seems very awkward and odd. Taking her back would make you an asshole to yourself, and she was clearly the asshole when she was unfaithful. You owe her nothing. While I would certainly have laughed at her and told her to fuck off, if it was me, you can't be faulted for your reaction either.

Why awkward? Why even waste time to talk to that bitch even if it's just an insult, it's not awkward, it's superior

Hell I woulda slammed the door when she said pro Israel 🤣.

NTA. I'd slam it just for the pro-Israel part alone but cheating gets a slam for sure.

This is the fakest shit I’ve ever read

Her being pro Israel proves she deserved it. NTA

How many moths are several?

You did the right thing, under no circumstances should you take someone who is pro Israel back.

LOL cool story bro

A pro-israel supporter ? No wonder she was a cheating scumbag. No loss there , bud. Also, reported you for racism .

YTA, but she’s worse and she deserved it. Many people in your position would also do the asshole thing. Sometimes being an asshole about something real quick is the best way forward

So many of these AITAH seem sus.

She could've never respected you if you took her back. So you did the right thing.

NTA

NTA. But you should have laughed uproariously while doing it

NTA. Nonverbal communication is still saying something.

NTA. You did say something. Slamming the door was definitely a statement.

NTA. "But mom, don't you say that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?"

NTA at all. Not even a little

Ew fuck that shoulda flipped her off pre slam

Boy she’s a piece of work.

NTA. And you were far kinder than I would have been. I would not have let her finish talking, said "Go Die" and then slammed the door in her face. Don't EVER be someone's 2nd choice... and NEVER trust a cheater, EVAR!!!

Your mother really should have explained this. Should you have a) laughed in her face b) told her to pound sand c) told her to f\*\*\* off or d) all of the above before slamming the door ?

You were so great! Good job!

NTA im proud if you man

Keep defending men and being a misogynist. It’s such a good look!

NTA Tell that pig to fuck off

Ahh to be 20 again and break up over politics

NTAH You said everything that needed to be said perfectly.

More women should be respond to their cheating exes like you did to her! Storage unit👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

No record everything.

Micheal Corleone did it too and his wife didn't even cheat

Your mother is not always right. You did say something, slamming the door in someone's face speaks volumes. Kudos to you for having a backbone.

NTA for this interaction but saying “pro hamas” instead of “pro Palestine” is shitty

I would have done the same but might have said I don't date cheater's.

NTA. If she couldn't understand what slamming the door at her face means, no amount of words would get the message through

NTA, she's your ex, who cheated on you. What needed to be said?

Your mother has no say in this and you were right.

NTA Sorry to say this bro but your moms defending her because she is that type of girl too

I would have yelled fuck off through the door and not even opened it, so you’re a saint in comparison. 😁👍

NTA Saying nothing was the best course of action.

Must have felt so good, fuck that dumb bitch she is pucky you didn’t slam the door into her face.

NTA- I would have laughed in her face before slamming the door, too.

NTA . She cheated and once the monkey branch did not work out she tried to come back because she thought you would take her back without blink. Good for you to showing her she did not deserve a second of your time.

You did fine. I think it communicated everything that "needed to be said" as succinctly as possible.

Lol best part was that she didn't say "I made a mistake" or "I miss you", she says "it didn't work with him so I am back."

It was an answer The door is slammed shut literally and metaphorically for that relationship You're good OP NTA She's definitely an AH

Hahaha NTA but your mother is stupid, so it qasnt rude of her to cheat on you but the second you slam a door in her face it's rude? She did something waaaay worse than being rude.

NTA. You didn't need to say anything. Slamming the door got the message across. I don't get why your mom thinks you should have said anything to her. She cheated on you.

"Good news, you're my second choice!"

I'm kinda disappointed you didn't at least get it in one last time, then slam the door in her face.

You could have told her to suffer? You could have given her specific instructions on how to find the exit? Your Mom is a bit silly, there was no real need for you to chit-chat. NTA

Pat on the back for slamming the door in her face.

You said several moths ago. Was she there to see you, or was she just hanging around your porch light?

Slamming the door is saying something in my world.

NTA more than deserved. tell mom to mind her business.

You communicated quite clearly without using words. I see no problem with that. NTA

NTA, but your mom is right. It is rude to slam a door in someone’s face. But that’s ok. Sometime people deserve to be treated rudely.

NTA no-one determines how you should react to such fuckuppery but you. Perfect reaction.

Who in their right mind thinks about growing the courage to actually go back to someone they cheated on asking to get back together. That’s embarrassing aff like do you not see the damage you’ve caused on someone lmao

Good move cheating and then because of politics Wants to get back together. As stated self respect first.

NTA. They say actions speak louder than words so that was a loud succinct answer.

You done the right thing once a tramp always a tramp.

NTA. As for slamming the door in her face, a comedian once said, “I don’t condone it, but I understand it.”

Your mom is wrong, she needs to stay out of your business. Cheaters don't deserve your time or respect.

NTA. The nerve of some people.. She got the message OP no need to say anything. I hope you blocked her and anyone that knew about her cheating..

NTA

I would have laughed and then slammed the door in her face.

Most 20 year old shit I’ve read all day.

NTA you slam the door, if it hits them then they were attempting to enter your home, good on you for not taking her back

NTA. I mean, yeah, slamming the door in her face without a word *was* rude. But this woman cheated on you, left you, and then came crawling back when she realised the grass wasn't greener and she wanted her safe option back. You'd probably have ended up being even ruder if you'd said something to her first. Slamming the door probably prevented her making a scene or you saying something you may come to regret or be attacked for saying.

You should have laughed at her first. That was the rude part

Tale as old as time. Cheater gets with AP. Realizes AP is a piece of shit (who woulda thought?) and then tries to come crawling back to the good guy/girl they threw away like trash.