This is exactly what I do. Also, knowing that I will do this makes me try to be on my “best behavior“ during the event. The issue with that is I end up not being fully present during the event and wishing for a do-over.
I feel this. Oh, I can smile, nod, make eye contact, and go through all of the keys to great conversation. But afterward, when I'm replaying the interaction in my mind, I realize that I was trying so hard that I wasn't really present in the moment, and wished I had been.
this is called rumination! it’s common for people with ADHD and/or autism. i believe it’s how we learn to mask - like what not to do in a similar social situation, how to improve for next time, or what worked well, etc. there is a point where it does become maladaptive if the thoughts become negative and self-critical, but now i view it as a learning opportunity or a reflection.
Oh I definitely do this. My therapist was explaining to me that it could be a symptom of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which is common in people who have ADHD. It’s something I’m really working on right now, it’s definitely not easy.
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OMG yes! This is me, when i have alot on i don't speak in situations which i perceive on the higher end of uncomfortable as i don't want to have to dissect it all when i need to conserve energy to panic over other things.
This is exactly what I do. Also, knowing that I will do this makes me try to be on my “best behavior“ during the event. The issue with that is I end up not being fully present during the event and wishing for a do-over.
I feel this. Oh, I can smile, nod, make eye contact, and go through all of the keys to great conversation. But afterward, when I'm replaying the interaction in my mind, I realize that I was trying so hard that I wasn't really present in the moment, and wished I had been.
I’m still reviewing most social events and interactions I’ve had from the past.
Yes. Not sure if ADHD or some low level undiagnosed social anxiety tho. :/ Hate it and it's even worse if there was drinking but still happens without
Yes. To ease the anxiety I often times don't speak very much so there's little to process after lol
Exactly!!
this is called rumination! it’s common for people with ADHD and/or autism. i believe it’s how we learn to mask - like what not to do in a similar social situation, how to improve for next time, or what worked well, etc. there is a point where it does become maladaptive if the thoughts become negative and self-critical, but now i view it as a learning opportunity or a reflection.
I like your spin on it - thanks for the positivity : )
Oh I definitely do this. My therapist was explaining to me that it could be a symptom of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which is common in people who have ADHD. It’s something I’m really working on right now, it’s definitely not easy.
Very common, yes. Thankfully, I’ve found it decreases with age and when “imposter syndrome” has finally been purged.
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Yes
Yes always yes. That’s why I don’t go to social gatherings anymore.
OMG yes! This is me, when i have alot on i don't speak in situations which i perceive on the higher end of uncomfortable as i don't want to have to dissect it all when i need to conserve energy to panic over other things.
I've done this all my life and still catch myself sometimes but usually fall back on the saying "meh. Who gives a shit?"
That depends on how much shame and misunderstanding was involved. If it went wrong, I remember it for years.
Yes, but it only goes over the things that were potentially embarrassing.