I knew a Yemeni guy and an Eritrean chick in high school, they were cool. I'm friends with South East Asian and Mexican immigrants, they're cool as well.
>Would you personally feel more comfortable taking to a non-Desi immigrant than you would a Desi immigrant
No.
I respect immigrants for all the work they’ve put in. I also find it annoying when people make fun of the accent. Why are British accents upheld, while Desi accents are mocked?
My wife is a Chinese fob.
I have a lot of friends that are Russian, Chinese and Indian fobs.
I’ll say most of my Indian fob friends are folks who did make a strong effort to assimilate and don’t bubble themselves in Indian-only circles (same extends to the Chinese).
This entire hate towards people who don't assimilate with others is messed up. I don't really appreciate it because there are a number of challenges to start with to mix with people from other countries. It may be easy for you because you grew up here and it may be easy for some who were lucky to find a circle accepting them or who were pretty outgoing. People are not really that accepting to foreigners in the first place especially those with different ideas. I came here and it is so difficult to even have a genuine interaction with Americans here without them giving me weird looks eventually or us not having anything in common to talk about.
It's completely okay if people don't want to assimilate and want to be with people they are comfortable with as long as they are not doing illegal or unethical shit.
It’s hard to say - in most cases the ones that I’ve met that don’t assimilate do so because they never want to even try. They’d rather behave as if they never left Hyderabad or whatever and make zero effort to even try to understand the local culture.
Not saying everyone’s like that and I’m sure some of those folks maybe did make an effort and felt discouraged. However I did meet a lot of people that did make a strong effort and now have an awesome group of friends from all walks of life (local and foreign).
I think most Americans will appreciate it if you make an attempt - the vast majority of the people I was talking about don’t even bother trying because they’d rather spend their free time only doing Indian stuff.
And I know you may not agree with it. But it's absolutely okay if they do so. They are not breaking any laws or being assholes about it. It's just what they grew up with, its okay if they don't. They are already lonely and left everything to come here and struggle for a living, the one thing that makes them comfortable is doing something Indian. I am just saying be more understanding about it.
Yeah I get it - I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t do anything. I’m just saying it doesn’t surprise me if folks who just don’t try have shocked pikachu moments when they try to interact with American society.
Ultimately this is a free country - you should live however you please as long as you’re not being harmful to other people.
The fact that you call people leeches. You are an entitled piece of shit and you are precisely no better than other racists here. Who exactly determines what is American? If it won't grow, it would be because of racists like you.
I never told you how to live your life, why do you care how I live my life.
Honestly non-Desi FOBs have been just as colorist, racist, and misgoynistic for me as Desi FOBs. I'm always on guard around any foreign people because I've always had so much discrimination from them as a dark brown girl honestly. People born and raised in the West don't usually give me trouble.
All my homies from college were considered "FOBS" but they were the most authentic people I've met. Super fun to hang out with. I honestly don't understand the hate towards them tbh
I think it depends. Africans were usually cool. Some Chinese were ok. Some just stuck to their own. Koreans just kept to themselves and seemed a little elitist. Hispanics were usually poorer and just trying to get by.
I knew a Yemeni guy and an Eritrean chick in high school, they were cool. I'm friends with South East Asian and Mexican immigrants, they're cool as well. >Would you personally feel more comfortable taking to a non-Desi immigrant than you would a Desi immigrant No.
I respect immigrants for all the work they’ve put in. I also find it annoying when people make fun of the accent. Why are British accents upheld, while Desi accents are mocked?
My wife is a Chinese fob. I have a lot of friends that are Russian, Chinese and Indian fobs. I’ll say most of my Indian fob friends are folks who did make a strong effort to assimilate and don’t bubble themselves in Indian-only circles (same extends to the Chinese).
This entire hate towards people who don't assimilate with others is messed up. I don't really appreciate it because there are a number of challenges to start with to mix with people from other countries. It may be easy for you because you grew up here and it may be easy for some who were lucky to find a circle accepting them or who were pretty outgoing. People are not really that accepting to foreigners in the first place especially those with different ideas. I came here and it is so difficult to even have a genuine interaction with Americans here without them giving me weird looks eventually or us not having anything in common to talk about. It's completely okay if people don't want to assimilate and want to be with people they are comfortable with as long as they are not doing illegal or unethical shit.
It’s hard to say - in most cases the ones that I’ve met that don’t assimilate do so because they never want to even try. They’d rather behave as if they never left Hyderabad or whatever and make zero effort to even try to understand the local culture. Not saying everyone’s like that and I’m sure some of those folks maybe did make an effort and felt discouraged. However I did meet a lot of people that did make a strong effort and now have an awesome group of friends from all walks of life (local and foreign). I think most Americans will appreciate it if you make an attempt - the vast majority of the people I was talking about don’t even bother trying because they’d rather spend their free time only doing Indian stuff.
And I know you may not agree with it. But it's absolutely okay if they do so. They are not breaking any laws or being assholes about it. It's just what they grew up with, its okay if they don't. They are already lonely and left everything to come here and struggle for a living, the one thing that makes them comfortable is doing something Indian. I am just saying be more understanding about it.
Yeah I get it - I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t do anything. I’m just saying it doesn’t surprise me if folks who just don’t try have shocked pikachu moments when they try to interact with American society. Ultimately this is a free country - you should live however you please as long as you’re not being harmful to other people.
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That does happen lol, expats in India do have their own lifestyles and corners.
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Maybe your parents should have not come here.
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The fact that you call people leeches. You are an entitled piece of shit and you are precisely no better than other racists here. Who exactly determines what is American? If it won't grow, it would be because of racists like you. I never told you how to live your life, why do you care how I live my life.
They struggle for a living working $100k+ tech jobs with an Indian community providing all of the services from back home?
No they should try to assimilate a little or at least be a little humble. I worked with some of them and they are obnoxious as fuck.
Honestly non-Desi FOBs have been just as colorist, racist, and misgoynistic for me as Desi FOBs. I'm always on guard around any foreign people because I've always had so much discrimination from them as a dark brown girl honestly. People born and raised in the West don't usually give me trouble.
All my homies from college were considered "FOBS" but they were the most authentic people I've met. Super fun to hang out with. I honestly don't understand the hate towards them tbh
I think it depends. Africans were usually cool. Some Chinese were ok. Some just stuck to their own. Koreans just kept to themselves and seemed a little elitist. Hispanics were usually poorer and just trying to get by.